On Saturday, Kendra Wilkinson and Hank Baskett hosted a barbecue at their Calabasas, California, home, but "it was for the show," a friend tells PEOPLE. "It was staged for sure."
The couple are still living together at home where most scenes for their WE TV show Kendra on Top are shot, but "everything is definitely not 'good' between them," says the pal. "He cheated on her and it's not like she can forget that that happened."
In July, reports surfaced that Baskett, 31, had cheated on Wilkinson, 29, earlier this year with a model.
Though the two are "on speaking terms," the former Playboy model is keeping her distance from her husband of five years and is sleeping in a separate room.
"She's still meeting with divorce lawyers and it's happening soon," says the friend. "She's ready to start this new chapter of her life."