08/30/2014 AT 07:15 PM EDT
Meg Ryan has always kept a low profile on the tiny, tony island of Chappaquiddick, Massachusetts, where she spends most summers.
But this year she was even less on the scene there and in neighboring Martha's Vineyard than usual, skipping her regular coffee run at Espresso Love and bypassing the Quarterdeck, an eatery she has frequented in years past with daughter Daisy, 9.
Stopping by Morning Glory Farm on her bicycle on Aug. 24, the actress stuck to her polite-but-please-don't-ask-me-for-a-selfie mode.
Says clerk Mira Vasiljevic: "She was very nice and seemed happy."
She is also in the midst of a major transition, splitting from rocker John Mellencamp
after more than three largely long-distance years with him.
Mellencamp, 62, has homes in Indiana and South Carolina, while Ryan, 52, is raising Daisy primarily in New York City.