Sorry Not Sorry: Mindy Kaling Sends Apology Cupcakes for 'Being Too Assertive as a Woman'

04/07/2016 AT 04:40 PM EDT

Mindy Kaling has a sweet way of letting people know she's sorry: cupcakes.

"I am very assertive, to the point of being brusk and then I just send cupcakes with a note saying, 'I am sorry for being so assertive, Love Mindy!' "Kaling said during a panel at the 7th annual Women in the World summit in New York. "In L.A., there is a cottage industry of apology gifts you can send for being too assertive as a woman."

The Mindy Show creator, 36, went on to name the ways a you can say sorry in Los Angeles.

"Flower arrangements, artisanal ice cream," she said. "You can send a puppy party for demanding respect. 'I'm sorry I demanded respect at that meeting. Here's a puppy party. Love Mindy.' "



But Kaling cautioned young women in the audience not to start giving those over-the-top apologies until they are more established in their careers.

"You can't employ that. But maybe when you get older you can," she said.

Kaling also spoke out about the types of roles that excite her, noting that she did not want to play a perfect woman.

"I wanted to be a really flawed, delusion, funny character. Because as an actress, that's way more fun," she said. "All the best parts are villains...I hope that young women look to me, Mindy Kaling, as a role model, but let me play the characters I want to play."
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