Taylor Swift Helps a Young Fan with a Broken Heart over the Boy Next Door
07/25/2014 AT 03:00 PM EDT
The fashion-loving music star, 24, reached out to a teen fan named Hannah who sent the singer a note via Instagram about falling for the boy next door – a nice guy with a girlfriend who didn't know she cared. And who might never love her back.
As Hannah wrote about the object of her affection: "There’s a guy Taylor, a guy who’s sweet and charming and makes me laugh. A guy who said sorry for eating in front of me after finding out I had to skip breakfast. A guy who grew up across the street from me. A guy who plays guitar like me. A guy who was my first best friend. A guy who I met when I was seven and he was nine. A guy who this one time, when we were younger, said that I was ‘like’ his girlfriend because I was a girl and his friend. I wish," her note said.
"A guy who I have the biggest crush in the whole wide world on, and he’ll never like me back. (And he has a girlfriend who he adores and she’s pretty and has an amazing figure and is actually nice to me). A guy who will never like me back. @taylorswift can you give me some advice maybe. I love you. Hannah."
Touched by the message, the Grammy-winning singer and songwriter responded – first by complimenting Hannah's big blue eyes – then with her take on unrequited love.
"Hannah. Eyes, eyes, eyes. Woah. You have the prettiest, widest, most child like eyes. (Composes herself) Okay. About this guy. I think we grow up thinking the only love that counts as true love is the kind that lasts forever or is fully realized. When you have a broken heart, the first thing a stranger will ask is ‘how long were you two together?’ As if your pain can be determined by how long you were with someone. Or if you were with them at all. I don’t think that’s how it works," Swift, who stars in a new movie The Giver, told Hannah.
"I think unrequited love is just as valid as any other kind. It’s just as crushing and just as thrilling," Swift wrote. "No matter what happens in this situation, I want you to remember that what you are doing is selfless and beautiful and kind. You are loving someone purely because you love them, not because you think you’ll ever have your affections reciprocated. You are admiring something for its beauty, without needing to own it. Feel good about being the kind of person who loves selflessly. I think someday you’ll find someone who loves you in that exact same way.
Hannah expressed her gratitude to Swift for weighing in.
“You have no idea how much this means to me, thank you. You understand and that means so much. I feel like you’re the big sister I don’t have. Thank you, I really did need to hear that from you.”