Edward Burns makes movies about how boys grow up—or try not to. But at 38, the writer-director-actor has finally settled down himself: He's a husband (to former supermodel Christy Turlington, 37) and father (to Grace, 2, and Finn, 5 months). The Valley Stream, N.Y.-reared Burns, whose movie The Groomsmen opens July 14, talked with PEOPLE's Liza Hamm about how his life has changed.

1. I WATCH NICKELODEON, NOT MY KNICKS

"There is no way I'm giving up two hours of my day to watch a ball game when free time doesn't really exist. The best show on TV is [Nickelodeon's] Wonder Pets! The little duck has a great New York accent, so obviously I can identify."

2. I FOCUS ON PLAY DATES, NOT PLAYLISTS

"I used to be religious about finding new bands. I'd go to Tower Records every Tuesday and buy a stack of CDs. Now my life revolves around making sure I've put together an exhausting day for my kids. I take them to the park, do a picnic, work them out in the playground. Hopefully, they're ready for their nap."

3. I'M MORE FOCUSED ON WORK

"My writing has matured. I was in such a hurry as a young guy. As you get older, you see everything you do is not brilliant."

4. I HAD TO FIND A NEW HOBBY

"The hardest thing is not being the athlete that I was. We have such a hard time putting a softball game together every week because somebody comes down with a different injury. Now I play guitar. "

5. I STROLL PAST THE BAR

"I used to hang out at Puffy's Tavern [the site of this interview and photo] quite a bit. And now the only time I walk past this place is when I've got my son in a stroller and I'm taking him on a late night walk to try and get him to fall asleep. I'll walk past the new versions of me and my friends and that's when it hits me—I'm not one of the young guys anymore. But this feels like the right place to be."