Here's a stumper for the scribes at Hallmark: How to commemorate the First Anniversary of Your Very Public Breakup? Hold the condolence cards. Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck, observes a pal of the near-groom, "are over each other, it's safe to say."

On Jan. 20,2004, at the Beverly Hills eatery Matsuhisa, they last dined as a couple, four months after canceling their Santa Barbara wedding. Fast forward: Lopez is now Mrs. Marc Anthony, stepmom to his three kids, and so determined to put her "J.Lo" and "Bennifer" days behind her that she jokingly considered naming her new album, out March 1, Call Me Jennifer. (Instead it was christened, tellingly, Rebirth.)

Affleck rebounded briefly with Boston TV ad-sales exec Enza Sambataro, but since August he has been involved with Daredevil costar Jennifer Garner. He isn't slinging giant pink diamonds this time, but he reportedly drops in on Garner on the set of Alias. (Her pre-Ben boyfriend Michael Vartan remains her leading man on the show; last spring Vartan shot Monster-in-Law, in which his fiancée is played by—wait for it—Jennifer Lopez.)

The male half of Team Bentley no longer looks like a Queer Eye grad, and his new girl goes out with "little or no makeup," says a source who has spotted them near his Savannah-area retreat.

Newly downscale diva Lopez has been shopping in a Manhasset, N.Y., mall and working out at a college gym near Anthony's Long Island home. "Marc and Jennifer are in a relationship of mutual respect, love and support," says a friend. "They are an impressive couple to watch." And for those Bennifer-watchers in mourning? "Ben to her," says another source, "feels like 100 years ago."

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Ben's Year
JAN. 10 Affleck hangs out with a bevy of women at a Berlin club; the next night Lopez meets up with former flame R Diddy in Miami.Trouble?

MARCH He hits the press circuit for Jersey Girl alone. Now-ex-fiancée Lopez drops him a note: "I do not envy you,"

MAY 24 Meets Enza Sambataro at charity bowling event in Boston. They will date for two months.

SEPT. 21 Makes an early appearance with Garner at a fund-raiser in Washington, D.C.

OCT. 23 Affleck and Garner at a Red Sox game

NOV. 25 Spends Thanksgiving in LA. with his mom and Garner.

JAN. 3,2005 When Garner suffers a viral infection, he accompanies her to the doctor (right).

Ben Vs. Jen: How's Business?
HIS

Jersey Girl. Lopez's role was tiny, but critics still smelled Gigli. It grossed only $25 million.

Saturday Night Live. He sends up his tabloid life-and the audience laughs with him.

Surviving Christmas. Barely.

Man About Town. He'll try again in this upcoming comedy, as a Hollywood bigwig getting his comeuppance.

HERS

Clothing. She expanded her successful JLo line to include racy underthings in July.

Shall We Dance? Hmm. Maybe. Her turn with Richard Gere brought in $57 million.

Rebirth. Coming March 1, the follow-up to her 2002 multiplatinum album This is Me...Then includes one track produced by husband Marc Anthony.

Jen's Year
JAN. 22 Her rep issues a statement announcing the split from Affleck.

FEB. 20 Is she home with Ben and Jerry? No, she's spotted out with Anthony, whom she had dated briefly in 1998.

JUNE 1 Anthony's divorce from Dayanara Torres is finalized.

JUNE 5 Lopez and Anthony wed at her LA. mansion (below). Despite wearing rings, for months the couple refuse to confirm the marriage.

SEPT. 16 Lopez throws Anthony a surprise birthday party at his Long Island home.

NOV. 11 The newlyweds in New York City

DEC. 31 Marks the new year with her new husband at her Pasadena restaurant, Madre's.