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- April 20, 2009
- Vol. 71
- No. 15
A Gay Mom Faces Deportation
She Has 12-Year-Old Twins with Her Partner of 23 Years, but Shirley Tan Can't Get Her Green Card by Marrying—unlike Heterosexual Immigrants
But this stay-at-home soccer mom's situation is complicated and, for the moment, dire. Despite her long relationship with Mercado—they are registered domestic partners who wed in 2004—Tan is in the U.S. illegally. This month she was ordered to appear in court with a plane ticket to the Philippines. There was an appeal, and she won a stay until April 22, but may be deported then. "Why is this happening to them?" asks Mercado's mother, Renee, 76 (Tan is her primary caretaker). "It doesn't happen often that people find this kind of love."
Tan came to California in 1986 on a tourist visa and overstayed after she met Mercado. "We needed to be together," says Mercado, 48, who works for an insurance company. Were her spouse a man, Tan would be here legally with a green card. But while states may recognize same-sex marriages, the federal government doesn't allow gay spouses to sponsor partners for citizenship (see box). Their boys, to whom Tan gave birth using Mercado's eggs, are citizens. So is Mercado. But "I have no rights to do something for her," she says. "I feel so helpless." She even considered getting a surgical sex change. "I don't want to," she says. "But I asked the boys if that's the only way to keep Mommy here, would it be okay? They said, 'Go ahead so we can stay together.'"
Besides the prospect of leaving her family, Tan dreads a return to the Philippines, where in 1979, she says, a cousin shot her in the head and killed her mother and sister. In 1995 she applied for asylum based on the fear of violence (her cousin, she says, served a prison sentence and is now free). The request was denied. But the couple say they believed their case was still under review; they also say they never got a 2002 order of deportation. Nevertheless, ICE officials finally got around to enforcing it this year. "We are following the law," says ICE spokeswoman Lori Haley. "There is nothing personal about this."
On April 3 California Representative Jackie Speier arranged the postponement, and U.S. Senators Barbara Boxer and Dianne Feinstein are reviewing Tan's case. Yet they would have to issue a rare private bill, crafted solely for Tan, to save her. "That's a long shot," says Rachel Tiven, executive director of Immigration Equality, a group pushing for passage of the Uniting American Families Act. Tan's is a perfect test case. She and Mercado are churchgoers, school fund-raisers and former choir members. Says Tiven: "They are exactly the kind of people you want living in this country."
The couple could move to another country, but that would mean taking the boys away from friends and Mercado finding another job. The alternative seems unthinkable. "I love my mom and I don't want her to leave," says Jashley, who, like brother Joriene, can barely talk about the case. Neither can their parents, whose eyes well up when discussing it. "I told Shirley, 'Please don't pack.' I just don't want to see her packing," says Mercado. "We are hoping for a miracle."
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