Holmes (left) and Shields
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11/01/2006 at 08:00 AM EST
Despite her very public battle
with Tom Cruise, when Brooke Shields met up with his fiancée, Katie Holmes, at a charity event in Pacific Palisades, Calif., Oct. 29, the two "were so lovely to each other," an onlooker tells PEOPLE in its new issue.
Perhaps that's because they go way back – to the September premiere of Grey's Anatomy,
at least, which they watched together in Shields's living room. (After Cruise slammed Shields for using medication to treat her postpartum depression, he famously apologized
Coincidentally, the two new moms gave birth – Shields, 41, to her second daughter, Grier, and Holmes, 27, to daughter Suri – on the same day, April 18, and at the same L.A. hospital.
The two are "absolutely" friends, Shields told Access Hollywood
at the Pacific Palisades event, which benefited Hands of Change, an employment and mentoring program for women. "You never know how life is going to bring people together."