02/05/2007 at 10:40 AM EST
Three months after his split
from Reese Witherspoon, Ryan Phillippe says, "This is the most difficult time in my life."
"I must stay focused on my kids," Phillippe, 32, tells TV's Extra
in an interview airing this week.
Witherspoon filed for divorce
on Nov. 8, citing irreconcilable differences. The couple were married for seven years and have two children: Ava, 7, and Deacon, 3.
Asked if he's distracted himself with his work during this tough time, the Flags of Our Fathers
star answers: "I have not found balance in my life yet."
Going through a break-up in the public eye makes things harder, he says: "It's unfortunate when you have kids ... but I signed up for this and have to deal with it. I don't read the magazines or watch the shows. ... It's hard when people follow me to my kid's school."
In his first public words about the split, Phillippe told PEOPLE
in November: "I'm not a perfect person, but I'm not guilty of a lot of the things I have been accused of. My priority is and always has been the health and safety of my family."
Phillippe would not comment on reports that a relationship with Abbie Cornish – the Australian actress who costars with him in an upcoming film – played a role in the demise of his marriage. But his reps vehemently denied other allegations of hard partying and drug use.
On Saturday, at a press event for his new movie Breach,
Phillippe told reporters that, despite his personal turmoil, he's at a high point professionally.
"I acknowledge that the successes and the opportunities I've had recently have been the best of my career," he said. "I've got to say it's the last thing on my mind right now, considering what I'm going through in my personal life, but I definitely appreciate the opportunities."
But now, he said, he's ready to focus on his family: "I did three movies in the last year and a half and I'm going to take a good long break and be a dad. So that's No. 1 on my mind right now."