Keith Urban on Jan. 20
02/16/2007 AT 09:25 AM EST
Keith Urban says words can't describe the lessons he and wife Nicole Kidman have learned from his recent stint in rehab.
"I can't really quantify it, because it's not a soundbite what we've learned," the singer, 39, said on Friday's Today
show. "But," he added, "it's really profound."
Speaking on American TV for the first time since he left rehab
on Jan. 18, Urban said of his relationship: "They say grief makes hearts and closer bonds than joy ever can. We've been through a lot, and she's been extraordinary."
s Matt Lauer, noting that things had looked good for Urban before he headed to rehab in October – he'd married Kidman just four months earlier, and was about to release his album Love, Pain & the whole crazy thing
– asked why he later said
life had been "unmanageable."
"This disease of addiction, you know, it's nothing to do with contentedness and happiness, because I had all of that," replied Urban, who has admitted to a past addiction to cocaine and previously underwent rehab in 1998. "But I wasn't doing what I should be doing to maintain the road I was on previously, so it was a big wake-up call to get back on the road."
Asked if a specific incident prompted him to seek treatment, Urban said, "It was just time. I could see where it was going. It was coming at me in a way that was very apparent that this is not me, you know what I mean? I think anybody out there who is in this situation recognizes it's not me, it's something else."
He added, "I'm really grateful for the support I got around me."
Comparing his earlier stint in rehab to his recent experience, Urban said, "It's completely different. I would say also, three months versus 28 days – it's like night and day. But everything is timing, too – and it was just the right timing."