"I'm surprised at how many people don't enjoy" marriage, says Bullock (with James in October). "If the good times don't outweigh the bad, you're doing something wrong." Photo by: Dakota / Photo Image Press
Sandra Bullock: 'I Have My Family'| Sandra Bullock, Jesse James
Whether that family will grow is not something that worries Bullock. "If that's gonna happen, that's exactly the way things are supposed to be, and it would be amazing," she says. "And if it didn't happen, then I'd know that I was supposed to be right here" – a sly grin begins to form – "with these three amazing, blond Aryan children. Everyone looks at me and goes, 'I know you ain't the mama!' I'm like, 'That's okay, I can put in some blond highlights!' "

But as her interview draws to a close, Bullock's mind is on something else: heading back to Austin to celebrate her kid sister Gesine's 37th birthday and mentally prepping for the event – of course – in list form. "I want this to be the best birthday she's ever had. I want the weather to be exactly what I want, I want to see my dogs, I want to go on a boat ride, I want to go for a swim, I want to eat some great steak and have a glass of wine," Bullock says as she absentmindedly clears the dirty lunch dishes from the table. "That's where I'm at."
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