Blythe Danner and Owen Wilson
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09/07/2007 AT 02:05 PM EDT
Blythe Danner – veteran actress and the mother of Gwyneth Paltrow
– was heartbroken by the news of Owen Wilson
's attempted suicide last month
"It was heartbreaking to hear. This is such a tough business and here he is at the pinnacle so you wonder how this happened," Danner tells PEOPLE. "We just send him the best and loving wishes for good health."
Danner, speaking at a Save the Children benefit dinner on Thursday at New York City's Lincoln Center, feels that professional pressure is such a burden. "It's a very delicate thing when you are in that position and I think it's tough. I was very sad when I heard the news," she says.
Paltrow once dated Luke Wilson and costarred with the brothers in The Royal Tenenbaums
, while Danner appeared with Owen in Meet The Parents
and the sequel Meet The Fockers
"He just kind of breezed in and breezed out for Meet The Parents
– he was only there for one day and for Fockers
he was in fine fettle," says Danner, 64.
"[It's] very sad because I know his parents a little bit," she adds. "I've met them and Luke and they've been so wonderful to us and anytime and anything that happens, your heart goes out to them."
Reporting by PAUL CHI