Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner
09/21/2007 AT 04:00 PM EDT
One reason Jennifer Garner
and Ben Affleck
are such a good match? They're both nice, according to the actress.
"I don't know what makes [the relationship] work. But it does,"
she tells Marie Claire
magazine in its current issue. "One thing that makes it not not
work is that we're both pretty nice."
When it comes to getting over the inevitable marital spats, she says they
both keep a level head. "[Ben] is not someone who's ever going to
blow up on anyone," says Garner. "What I mean is, if he's ever angry with
me, he doesn't act out on it in a weird way or yell at me. And I am the
same. So we can handle conflict in a very loving and adult way."
Another reason the couple gel so well is their love of family – and
they both wish they could be closer to their relatives, who live on the other
side of the country from Hollywood.
"I can't live in West Virginia and do what I do – I'm not going to get
lots of jobs there," Garner, 35, tells the magazine. "It bums us out. We
haven't figured it out yet."
Not that their own family life is lacking. Garner and Affleck, both 35, who
have Violet, 22 months, "definitely wonder what it would be like to have
another" baby, though they haven't decided when. "Hopefully, knock on wood,
someday," is all Garner will say.
Until then, the couple are enjoying being a trio. "She's pretty awesome,"
Garner says of Violet. "We're in that sweet spot before the terrible twos.
She sleeps until 7 a.m. Yeah, we lucked out."
On the career front – Garner currently stars in The Kingdom
Jamie Foxx and Jason Bateman – she's grateful she can balance her job with motherhood.
"My job is great to have as a mom. I get to take long breaks and then work
hard in a really concentrated way," she says. "During that concentrated
time, it sucks, but whatever."
Who's turning 40? Which celebs are high school dropouts? What's hot and definitely not in fall fashion?
Check out PEOPLE's new digital magazine now!