02/05/2007 at 01:00 AM EST
Listen up, boys: Felicity Huffman, 44, may have been wedded to actor William H. Macy for the past nine years, but she knows enough about what makes a good beau to have some sage advice. (Hey, a girl never forgets.) The Desperate Housewives star, who wrote A Practical Handbook for the Boyfriend with her best pal, theater producer Patricia Wolff, took time out from running errands in L.A. to share her wisdom with PEOPLE's Oliver Jones.
PDA'S: GIRLS LIKE THEM
My brother told me he doesn't want to show that soft side of him to the guy at the 7-Eleven—I wasn't aware that it actually costs guys to show that vulnerable side. But I want a lot of PDA. Girls generally end up a little hungry for it.
THE LITTLE THINGS COUNT
The real reason she's trying to improve you is, when you eat all the Junior Mints without offering her any, it means you don't love her. Men don't realize everything they do has this huge weight.
YOUR CALL IS IMPORTANT TO US
You score major points by calling her two or three times a day. My husband loved the phone chapter. He was like, that is so simple and practical.
GREAT BOYFRIENDS ARE MADE
Like a tennis player, you've got to hone those skills. Practice before you start showing up at tournaments.
THE SECRET TO A GOOD MARRIAGE
Stay a boyfriend. Every time your wife takes off her shirt you have got to go, "Yeah!" Even after 10 years. You never want to lose that.
'I am happy and more than a little relieved to be married to Bill Macy'