updated 12/06/1982 AT 01:00 AM EST
•originally published 12/06/1982 AT 01:00 AM EST
Your article on Princess Grace's family (PEOPLE, Nov. 15) was the best article I have seen on the subject. It was a relief to read something that wasn't slanderous or exaggerated, but in good taste.
When I found myself pregnant at 15, somehow I made the decision to put my baby up for adoption. For the last 13 years, it has been easy for me to believe that someday we'd be reunited. Your article forced me to face one simple fact: I'm not his mother. Although I loved him enough to give him up, someone else loved him enough to take him. After reading your article written from the child's point of view, I can finally set aside my hopes, quit looking over my shoulder and know that my decision was right.
There should be a chapter in Jill Krementz's book called "The Darker Side of Being Adopted." I was adopted at 6 months by an upper-middle-class couple. I was never told I was adopted, and at 13, when I found out, my "parents" denied it. I tried to approach the subject but was constantly threatened with disinheritance or told that, if I misbehaved, I would be shipped back to the adoption agency. Do I thank the Lord every day for being chosen by these people? I think not. I was adopted to fulfill the social requirements of these people. A new Cadillac would have served the same purpose.
I am adopted, and for years I wondered about my birthparents. In September I found my birthmother. She refused to see me, but she did send me a letter and two pictures of herself taken around the time I was born. When we talked on the telephone it was as if we were talking about a third party, the baby. I wasn't looking for a 40-year-old woman, I was looking for an 18-year-old girl. I sometimes wish I had never searched because, while I am glad the mystery is solved, rejection by a birthmother is not an easy thing to digest. Ironically, she now has an adoptive daughter of her own. To quote from her letter: "Don't dwell on the past, just live for the future. Your adoptive parents wanted you and love you more than you'll ever know."
Pacific Palisades, Calif.
I broke down and cried when I read your article about the Vietnam Veterans Memorial. By this letter, I would like to thank all those veterans who served my country in Vietnam. I think that Rick Seiver is right—the U.S. should have bombed North Vietnam in order to save us from the Vietcong. However, the American Army did a good job by keeping South Vietnam out of Communist control for years, and it pains me a great deal when I see people criticize those soldiers.
Do Thi Kim
Pompano Beach, Fla.
I just read your article about the people who sell the Cambridge Diet, Eileen Feather and her son, Vaughn. It is truly a shame that you used melodramatic words such as "cult" and "high priestess" to impress your lurid views on readers. My mother has lost 55 pounds on Cambridge, and because of her success I became a counselor. This is a caring and sharing business. Some doctors are backing this diet. I hope you print the whole truth from now on.
When Ms. Craft was a newscaster in Kansas City, I was one of many viewers who commented on her unkempt appearance and just-off-the-beach look. A newscaster should look professional and dress accordingly. Ms. Craft had a chance and, in my opinion, she blew it.
Kansas City, Mo.
Christine Craft was a journalist and a professional who brought her talents to Kansas City, but the executives at her TV station didn't want an anchorwoman, they wanted a prop, someone to look pretty next to the male anchor. Along with many other viewers, I admired Christine for holding to her beliefs and refusing to conform to the sexist demands of her bosses.
Mary Chris Blickhan
Kansas City, Mo.
West Bank Settlement
Your article "The Birth of a Settlement" gave a totally distorted picture and evoked sympathy not for David Rosenfeld, the murder victim, and his now fatherless babies but for the "innocent" Arab woman whose wheat was burned (for harboring terrorists) and for the families of the confessed murderers whose houses were bulldozed. By any standards, this was a small price to pay for the murder of a man who was unarmed and alone. You failed to mention that the murdered man had devoted himself to improving relations with his Arab neighbors. You also said that the Israelis "kicked down the doors" of houses in their search for the killers, but you failed to add that they uncovered a gang of more than 40 PLO members who were being hidden by the Arab villagers you would have us pity with your photos. A huge arms cache was also discovered that was intended to have been used to blow up the Jewish settlements. This is planned mass murder. It's ironic that these ruthless settlers (as you portrayed them) did not kill even one Arab as revenge for the murder of their beloved friend David.
Mrs. William Block
We sympathize with Mrs. Block's loss of her son, David Rosenfeld, and we appreciate that she has shared her views with us. There were published reports of a gang of 40 terrorists, but our correspondent found no confirmation for them. According to Hashim Muhammad, on whose property the explosives were found, they had been cached by retreating Jordanian troops in 1967. Muhammad was released by Israeli police after questioning.