updated 05/07/1984 AT 01:00 AM EDT
•originally published 05/07/1984 AT 01:00 AM EDT
The De Lorean ordeal (PEOPLE, April 16) is a grim reminder that we businessmen should carry a little Christianity, or its equivalent, in our hearts in all our daily operations. Then we would not need to be "saved" when we are hanging by our fingertips, nor would we have to be "born again" to effect an improvement in our image. The "enjoy now and bathe later" philosophy just doesn't wash.
Reading your article on De Lorean's upcoming trial, I was mainly struck by the pain all this has caused his wife, who is a beautiful and courageous woman. It seems too bad that her so-called "old friends" and the modeling agencies she had worked for have abandoned her. I hope her new friends are the genuine article.
Mary E. McCullough
My father is an automobile dealer in a small town who has devoted 35 years to the often fickle car business. When times are tough he denies himself so that hardworking employees can still collect bonuses. What a contrast to John De Lorean.
Robin L. Bouchat
Thank you for your article on Marvin Gaye; it helped ease the loss to read a compassionate story about him. Who cares what life-style he chose or exactly how he died? The fact remains that we lost a beautiful musician who enjoyed making music.
Fair Oaks, Calif.
Never in all the years I have been reading PEOPLE has an article so enraged me. When Elvis Presley and John Lennon died both were given a cover story. Where Presley and Lennon were shown respect and love in your stories, you stabbed Marvin Gaye in the back. The article was absolutely one-sided—the negative side. There was so much more to the man than sour marriages, drugs and violence.
Picks & Pans
Although it would be nice to understand the songs in German on Nena's 99 Luftballons, it is unreasonable for your critic to suggest the group take English lessons. No one challenges American groups to take Spanish, French or German lessons; yet their music is listened to all over the world. We could be enriched by letting down a few egoistic, ethnocentric barriers and opening our ears to the wealth of good rock music from non-English-speaking countries.
Carlla E. Wolff
It's a good thing that everyone doesn't agree with Bob Champion's statement: "We wouldn't mind another child as long as it wasn't a girl." If his opinion had been shared by one father in particular, he might never have met the female veterinarian who recommended he make a trip to the doctor that ultimately saved his life.
Kathleen E. Rickert
After reading your remarks about Nell Carter's return to "hog heaven," I'm not sure I want to continue reading your magazine. Ms. Carter is a talented actress and singer at any weight. If she has a problem with compulsive eating, she will not be encouraged to deal with it by such cruel and degrading comments.
Mary E. McDermott
Weird Al Yankovic
Why did you waste space on this copycat? If he can't make it in show business on his own ideas and talent, he shouldn't exploit others. You could have found a more worthwhile subject.
Christopher J. Allen
Music will never be the same as long as Weird Al continues to bite his way up the charts! With a success like Eat It, Al makes all the other goofy greats seem like small potatoes. You can bet that he will continue to cook up more funny-bone favorites.
As a social worker with experience in dealing with the sexual abuse of children, I can appreciate the anguish, rage and fear that the parents of the children who were abused at the McMartin Pre-School are feeling. I would like to offer some guidelines to parents trying to make child-care arrangements. First, visit the center or home by yourself. Prepare questions before you go. Inspect playrooms, sleeping areas, kitchen, bathrooms. Observe the children: Are they cheerful and playful, or do they seem unusually quiet and subdued? How does the staff interact with the children? If the place passes this inspection, return with your child for an hour or so. Do not leave. Observe your child, remembering that children are more sensitive and intuitive than overly socialized adults. (Expect some initial clinging behavior, especially in younger or shy children.) Get references and check them out. Don't be lulled into a false sense of security just because someone was willing to give references. If there is a licensing or regulatory board in your community, call them. All complaints and investigations should be public record. If a place is not licensed, be sure to find out why. Leave your child at the center for a few hours. When you pick him or her up, spend some time talking about the place. If you have concerns, visit again. Any center that refuses parental access should be viewed with suspicion. If everything looks terrific, but you still have a nagging, uncomfortable feeling in the pit of your stomach, trust yourself and look for another place. Finally, listen to what your child tells you. Sadly these things happen in our society. Do not condemn the child or berate yourself. Report any incident to authorities. It is difficult to think that 10 years of abuse could have occurred without at least one child attempting to tell his parents. Perhaps other victims could have been spared.
Jolanda J. Cook