02/13/1995 at 01:00 AM EST
Luckily for them, Hollywood's Sex Symbols are not married to our correspondents, who are far from being as philosophical about marital indiscretions as some of the stars' current spouses apparently are (PEOPLE, Jan. 23). Most blamed raging egos rather than hormones for the hunks' philandering, and several blasted Michael Douglas for his cavalier remarks about fidelity.
MARRIED SEX SYMBOLS
I was very disheartened to find that infidelity in our society is so prevalent that some Hollywood wives would make such remarks as "I trust him, but I'm still keeping my eye on him"—and, even worse, "There's too much emphasis placed on fidelity." Does anyone even listen to their marriage vows while making them? I don't recall a clause that states, "Fidelity not applicable to the rich and famous." If you can't keep the promise, don't make one.
MELISSA NIGHT, Canyon Country, Calif.
Sex symbols? Real sex appeal is having enough confidence in yourself not to have to sleep around.
STEPHANIE SAARI, Martinez, Calif.
So Michael Douglas "never claimed to be a saint." Hey, what about just being a decent guy?
A. FERRIS, Appleton, Wis.
Melissa Mathison and Harrison Ford are in a class by themselves.
DARLENE FOUQUET, Denver
I was amazed by the blatant chauvinism of your story. Have you regressed to gender stereotypes, insinuating that only men have sexual urges and infidelities, while their helpless wives cower in the shadows? There was no mention of the activities of equally glamorous women who are also constantly pursued by droves of admirers.
BRENT WILLIAMS; Washington
Stomach cancer came into my life last April, as it did for John Chancellor and his family. That was when my fiancé, Henry, was diagnosed with it. This news came just three weeks before his 41st birthday and just six weeks before we had hoped to get married. Henry, however, died 4½ weeks after the diagnosis. The cancer had spread, and there was no time for any kind of treatment to be administered. I am happy for Mr. Chancellor. It makes me feel better to read about a case where early-enough detection allowed for treatment and has prolonged a life.
BETTY DE LA CRUZ, Ventura, Calif.
Mr. Chancellor says his cancer robbed him of his special status and made him one of the "common herd." I am a cancer survivor and consider myself very fortunate. In fact, one of God's blessed—certainly not common herd. Mr. Chancellor should reexamine his attitude.
ANN WELLS, Carmichael, Calif.
JOHN SINGLETON & TYRA BANKS
As a former middle-school classmate of Tyra Banks
's, I would like to congratulate her on her success not only as one of the most stunning faces around today but also as an extremely talented actress. Higher Learning is John Singleton's best movie to date, and "his girl" is the brightest spot in it. On second thought, congratulations to them both!
KIRSTEN B. ALFORD, La Cresceta, Calif.
It infuriated me to read the letter from that opinionated group from Kearney, Neb., describing Michael Fay as a "spoiled rich kid." I met Michael over the Christmas holidays while shopping in a very busy store in Minnesota. I received no help from any salesperson until I reached the checkout. There he stood, certainly not doing what spoiled rich kids do—he was working and supporting himself. He was friendly and outgoing and almost shy about being recognized. I commended him for having a job and working so hard to get his life back. Keep your chin up, Michael. You deserved to be recognized as one of PEOPLE'S most intriguing young men.
KAREN DONAHOWER, Durango, Colo.
In reference to the letter from Christina Mitchell regarding Shannon Faulkner: Perhaps Ms. Mitchell would feel differently if she were in a public building maintained by her tax dollars and the only rest rooms were men's. Maybe then she would get the idea that publicly supported discrimination shouldn't be sanctioned by any government in this country.
ROGER BINION, New York City
I wish parents had to pass a physical and psychological examination before being allowed to have children. Your story "A Home for Hope" poignantly illustrated the damage that parents have done to their children because of drug abuse and the rejection of traditional morals and values. Getting these children away into nurturing orphanage environments seems a sane, compassionate alternative to a shameful national legacy of shattered young lives.
BARBARA BAUER ZAGAR, Clinton, N.Y.
Having been raised in an orphanage in the '50s, I can attest to the fact that it was a safe haven from the horrors of the streets, an alcoholic mother and some foster homes that were abusive and unbearable. I am a success today because of my experience with the Sisters of Charity. Orphanages have their place for frightened, lonely children such as I was.