A Face to Remember
Mitch was discovered when some pictures taken by a friend were shown to fashion photographer Bruce Weber. The photographer, who likes using real people instead of models, was impressed enough to invite Longley to a fashion shoot last May. Weber took some test shots and was impressed not only by Mitch's profile but also by his positive attitude toward life and his energetic work on behalf of the disabled. "I thought he was great looking, and I found him so inspirational," says Weber. "He was in this terrible accident and, instead of hiding in a shadow, had the courage to face it."
The courage has paid off. After seeing Weber's shots, Lauren signed up Mitch for his ads. The exposure—plus acting classes—led him to casting director Geoffrey Johnson. Now Longley is about to debut on the tube: On Friday, Oct. 25, he begins a recurring role on the NBC soap Another World, playing a wheelchair-hound lawyer. Plans call for his character to be involved in a romance.
For Mitch, the exposure fulfills a dream. "What this tells people is that being disabled is just not that big of a deal," he says. "The goal of a disabled person is just to be regarded as equal."
It has been a long and painful journey to that end. On March 13, 1983, after partying over a few beers with friends, he started the short drive to his Connecticut home. At 2:30 A.M., alone and not intoxicated, he says, Longley fell asleep at the wheel and crashed into a stone wall. Unconscious, his back broken, he was rushed to a local hospital and emergency surgery, where his battered right eye, forehead and lacerated liver were repaired. Three days later, the senior at Brien McMahon High School in South Norwalk, Conn., was transferred to New York University Medical Center, where doctors inserted two rods to help fuse his spine. He was told he would never walk again. "I remember asking my mom, 'What do I do with the rest of my life?' " he says. "I kept thinking, 'This isn't supposed to happen to me.' "
So it seemed. Raised in the comfortable Rowayton section of Norwalk, he was the second child of Betty Longley, a nurse, and her husband, John, a food-services executive. (Mitch's brother, Matt, 28, is a graphic artist in Norwalk.) In high school, Mitch worked as a busboy at a local restaurant and played tennis on the school team. He hoped one day to turn pro; he also planned to study theater at Southern Connecticut State College.
Instead, he spent the spring of '83 doing intensive physical therapy that included daily sessions of stretching and weight lifting, to strengthen his upper body, and agonizing hours in leg braces. Always he was optimistic. "It just wasn't logical to be unhappy," says Mitch.
According to Longley's high school buddy Peter Ahl, 26, one of the two friends who found Mitch after his accident, "He's a little bit cocky and a little bit arrogant, and I think that helped him out a lot."
Mitch returned home the day before his 18th birthday. His parents had separated in 1982 but reconciled on the night of his accident. "A crisis situation can either pull you together or tear you apart," says Betty, 52. "Mitch's accident showed us we had a common goal besides ourselves. Whatever issues bothered us before just weren't issues anymore."
After a year of outpatient care in Norwalk, Mitch enrolled at Northeastern University in Boston in 1984 to study speech communications and philosophy. That's where his activism took root. "I had watched a lot of TV, and I noticed they never used disabled people in ads or as characters," he explains. "That bothered me." Soon afterward he spoke out to some 200 students in his freshman communications class. "I talked about how people sometimes treat you differently when you're in a wheelchair and how that hurts," he says. "Sometimes they won't even look at you." Mitch spent his final year before graduation in a paid internship program, working with disabled kids in San Francisco.
The success of his Lauren ads springs from his brooding sensuality, and Longley is eager to dispel one major misconception about the disabled. "People think we are not even sexual, and that's just not true," says Mitch. "Your movement is limited, and you can't just jump on a bed, turn off the lights and do all that stuff. You need to talk and communicate, but I think you should do that anyway." He is not currently dating anyone, and that's okay with him. "I've had my heart broken a few times, but it's not because someone left me in a wheelchair," he says. "I just can't commit right now."
Mitch now lives in Rowayton in an apartment not far from his parents. The building is specially adapted for the elderly and the disabled and includes such features as outdoor ramps, assist railings in the bathrooms, and modified kitchen facilities. Mitch drives a specially adapted 1983 Buick that is equipped with hand controls. The car was given to him eight years ago by the people of Rowayton. Still, notes brother Matt, when you spend time with Mitch, you tend to forget his special status. Says Matt: "We don't even notice the chair anymore unless we have to go up a flight of stairs or something."
Lately, Longley's passion has been starting a foundation to help the disabled in developing countries, and he has also turned his focus to sports, winning singles and doubles matches on the national wheelchair foundation circuit. Speaking for many who are amazed by his energy and vitality, friend Tim Hartog, who has known him since childhood, says, "Mitch isn't handicapped. We thought we'd be the ones supporting him, but he's the supportive one."
DAVID M. HUTCHINGS