updated 12/10/1990 AT 01:00 AM EST

originally published 12/10/1990 AT 01:00 AM EST

Most of this week's mail was written in angry response to a letter from a registered nurse (PEOPLE, NOV. 19) who objected to the idea that actress Kirstie Alley needed "strength "to deal with a miscarriage, which the correspondent maintained is just a "normal part of childbearing."

Thank you! No more cold, lonely nights for this single mom. I'll just curl up with your Nov. 19 issue and read about Kevin Costner liking to be "physically, somehow just taken."
Barbara Curtis
Medford. Oreg.

Kevin Costner is truly a kind gentleman. At the benefit opening of Dances with Wolves in Washington, I was able to get close enough to ask him for his autograph. As he signed my poster inside the limousine, I managed to lean in to watch. The security guard sitting next to him became rough with me and shoved me out. When Mr. Costner realized what was happening, he ordered the guard to leave me alone, finished signing and talked to me. One kind man, one great actor.
Andrea M. Ruiz-Esparza
Washington, D.C.

Some things never change. Ranchers still think they have a God-given right to do as they please for the sake of their livelihood, never minding what they destroy in the process. I applaud the courage of Don Oman to stand up for the sake of us 250 million taxpayers.
Debbie F. Van Note
Irving, Texas

Your article about Forest Service ranger Don Oman was a distortion of the complicated controversy surrounding grazing rights on federal lands. You made it sound as if Oman's opinions were undisputed fact. You also characterized the ranchers as reckless cowboys who don't care about the forest or about anybody but themselves. Those of us who live in Idaho know this is not true. Not once did you mention that it is Oman's duty to enforce the concept of multiple use for public lands. He has taken it upon himself to impose his views of how our lands should be managed. While your characterization of the ranger as a lonely western hero may make good reading, it is not supported by the facts.
Kenneth L. Pedersen
Twin Falls, Idaho

Three cheers for Don Oman. As an Idaho resident and avid sportsman, I'm very aware of the problems he handles. We need more of his kind to help keep the West as it is, not as the cattle bosses want it.
Bob Brackett
Caldwell, Idaho

I first learned of Marc Smith after the death of my brother-in-law due to the same type of leukemia as Marc's. I have followed Marc's story with great interest, and I had been praying that a bone-marrow donor would be found for him. I cannot see how a person could simply not show up for an operation knowing they could help save someone's life.
Donna Thieme
Oakland, Calif.

On July 1, 1989, our son, Nick, was diagnosed with leukemia. He died March 31, 1990. Because of his condition, Nick should have received his transplant early in November 1989. Instead, he received it in February 1990. The constant delays, caused by the lack of coordination within the system, put him at risk. The odds now facing leukemia patients will never diminish unless improvements are made in the implementation of bone-marrow transplant procedures.
The Myers Family
Tacoma, Wash.

How come our government has no money for bone-marrow testing but has $500,000 for Lawrence Welk's house?
Rose Motyczka
Roselle Park, N.J.

As a registered nurse and a woman who has suffered a miscarriage, I was furious at the lack of professionalism and compassion in the letter from Astrid Blackburn, R.N., commenting on the loss of Kirstie Alley's baby. Although the statistics in her letter were accurate, I do not believe the loss of a child is "something most women accept as a normal part of childbearing." Like Kirstie Alley, I battled infertility and finally conceived, only to lose our baby. It is a loss made more difficult by small hearts and minds such as Ms. Blackburn's.
Donna Ludwig, R.N.

As an obstetrician who is familiar with the high miscarriage rates for all pregnancies, I was still not prepared for the heartbreak my wife and I felt when we lost our first pregnancy a year before our son was born. Miscarriage may be a "normal part of childbearing," but it is always agonizing, and it is natural and appropriate to grieve over such a loss.
Kirk C. Young, M.D.
New York City

Please stay in North Vancouver, Ms. Blackburn, because I'd hate to run across you when I'm on my deathbed.
Mary Jane Sukeforth
Easton, Mass.

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