05/15/1989 at 01:00 AM EDT
>Publishers have not neglected the needy bride-to-be, either. Here are three guides that go beyond the traditional dah-dum-ta-dah day:
BRIDE'S BOOK OF ETIQUETTE The editors of Bride's Magazine have updated their bridal bible, which is concise, comprehensive and brimming with details. (Perigee, $16.95; paper, $8.95)
YOUR COMPLETE WEDDING PLANNER by Marjabelle Young Stewart
Stewart deserves a gold ring for this fresh edition of her brides' basic guide. Her tips, ranging from wording announcements to tipping the bartender, conclude with checklists to keep memories and log reminders. (St. Martin's Press, $12.95)
DEAR ABBY ON PLANNING YOUR WEDDING
I'm Jewish and she's Japanese—what kind of ceremony should we have?
You can change your religion, but she will always be Japanese. Unless one of you is willing to compromise, I recommend a civil ceremony.
If you like reading other people's mail, here's a collection of queries right out of Dear Abby's in-box. Her answers include sensible suggestions guaranteed to help save the bride-to-be from a tizzy or two. (Andrews and McMeel, $8.95)