03/16/1998 at 01:00 AM EST
THEATRE OF PAIN, MÖTLEY CRÜE'S 1985 platinum album title, pretty much sums up what the band's drummer Tommy Lee walked into on Feb. 27. Wearing a blue prison uniform and handcuffs, a ragged-looking Lee entered a Malibu courtroom for his arraignment after spending three nights in a county jail. He listened as prosecutor Kathryn Solorzano described how, on Feb. 24, Lee allegedly kicked his wife, former Baywatch vixen Pamela Anderson
Lee, once in the back and once in the buttocks during a daylong domestic row at the couple's $2 million Malibu home. Pamela later said in a statement that she indeed "is and has been the victim of spousal abuse."
Police arrested Lee after Pamela, 30, who suffered red welts on her back, called 911 at 7:45 that evening. She claimed Lee, 35, attacked her while she held their 2-month-old son, Dylan Jagger, and while their 20-month-old son, Brandon, looked on. Lee, who pleaded innocent, was released last Friday on $500,000 bail.
But Judge Lawrence Mira prohibited the temperamental rocker, who is on probation for assaulting a video cameraman outside L.A.'s Viper Room in 1996, from any contact with Pamela and the boys. "I don't want him anywhere near that house," Mira told Lee's lawyers.
Nor, apparently, does Lee's wife. The day before he made bail, Pamela filed for divorce in L.A. Tommy, says his publicist, has no plans to contest it for the sake of his sons' well-being. Still, he said through the publicist, "it is extremely painful for me to be cut off from them." It's hardly the first crisis in the couple's volatile three-year marriage. In 1996, their X-rated honeymoon video was made public. That same year, fed up with Tommy's drinking, Pamela filed for divorce, only to reconcile 10 days later. Such a rosy denouement now seems unlikely. Pamela is "desperately in fear for her safety," her lawyer Stephen Kahn told reporters. As for Tommy, who faces a preliminary hearing March 13 and up to nearly eight years behind bars: "He's depressed," says his attorney Charles English. "He's worried about the kids."