Mailbag

updated 09/28/1998 at 01:00 AM EDT

originally published 09/28/1998 01:00AM

Surviving Infidelity
Hillary Clinton should not be grouped with women who forgive the one-time indiscretions of remorseful husbands. Hillary is not dumb. She has known of her husband's past and present activities, yet she continues to deny, blame others and even help in writing the eventual "apologies." These are not the actions of a saint or victim, but rather of an enabler.
Shannon Carpenter, Chandler, Ariz.

Hillary Clinton traded her dignity and self-respect for power a very long time ago.
Linda R. Mitchell, Minneapolis

Ten bucks says Hillary leaves after Clinton finishes his term—should he remain in office until 2000.
Michael Stafford, Tehachapi, Calif.

A message to Congress: Forget censure or impeachment. To stay in office, Bill Clinton should agree to be neutered.
Barrie H. Mason, Savannah

I am tired of hearing about the President's sex life. It is not my business. One point, however, is that extramarital relationships are not gender-biased. Surely there are women in politics and in the entertainment business who have had affairs. Ken Starr and the rest of the right wing should focus their energy and our tax dollars on something a little more productive and get a life!
Shannen Keane, Seattle

Many men possess the knack to separate sex and love. Isn't it possible that there are a few women on the planet who do too?
E.A. Spriggs, Warner Robins, Ga.

I am convinced the men in this story only regret one thing: being caught.
Kristi Allen-Hughes, Columbus, Ohio

Your cover story concerns itself with how prominent women adjust to their husbands' sexual disloyalty. Honorable Americans, I think, are more concerned with the President's betrayal of standards of morality, decency and honesty. This Commander-in-Chief should be dismissed as unfit for presidential service, just as his military underlings have been discharged for sexual misconduct.
Carl L. Evans, Henderson, N.C.

In these few decades of immediate gratification, drive-throughs and a throw-away society, it is nice to see a few people standing by their mates—through thick and thin, better or worse, warts and all. My admiration to Hillary, Elizabeth and Kathie Lee.
Cheryl Peterschick, Sultan, Wash.

I wish your magazine would stop running articles that basically are condoning infidelity. You are almost encouraging this type of behavior when you say it often makes the relationship stronger. I would not stay in a relationship if my mate were to cheat on me, no matter what the circumstances. When these women in the spotlight keep on allowing their men to stray, they're sending the wrong message to all women and young adults in society. Stop endorsing these damaged morals.
Jeannie Hugeri, Scottsdale, Ariz.

What's a mother to do? Two Spice Girls are having babies out of wedlock, and the President of the United States has an affair with a girl young enough to be his daughter. How can I teach my children the difference between right and wrong when their role models obviously haven't learned?
Connie Mandel-Senft, Los Angeles

What bad role models these women are, sticking with lying, cheating husbands no matter what. Get self-esteem, ladies!
M. Corona, Edmonds, Wash.

Judi Boisson
Am I missing something? Judi Boisson is selling "Americana" quilts made by 3,000 people in eight factories across China? Gee, Judi, if you want Americana, how about employing 3,000 Americans?
Peggy Simmons, Syracuse, N.Y.

As a quilter with 25 years' experience, I was delighted, at first, by your article on the quilts that Judi Boisson "makes." As I continued reading, however, I was revolted by the fact that this entrepreneur employs 3,000 Chinese in factories across China to interpret her designs. These, then, are not American quilts. These are the same quilts you can buy in local chain stores for $30. These same quilts are putting American craftsmen at a huge disadvantage. Why praise a woman who is just another importer?
Carol Ann Bejtlich, Billerica, Mass.

The Spice Girls
As a social worker for high-risk girls and boys, I am outraged that two of the Spice Girls chose to get pregnant out of wedlock. They are role models for 10-to 14-year-old girls who don't understand that if they get pregnant, life won't be easy street with nannies, toys and lots of money.
Roseanne Morales, Indialantic, Fla.

Dean Cain
Okay, wait a minute. Dean Cain and Mindy McCready meet in the spring of '97, get engaged in September of '97, break up in August of '98 and her friend says she's surprised they rushed into things? Let's face it, they were together a year and a half without getting married. That must be some sort of longevity record. Half of Hollywood got married, divorced and remarried in the same time!
Lindsay Rowlands, Edmonton, Alta.

Stephen Fried
I want to applaud Stephen Fried. I have had severe reactions to five prescription drugs, of which three have put me in the hospital. It is alarming to realize that prescription medications and injections given to relieve a medical condition may actually be more harmful and life-threatening than the actual illness. I plead with everyone to question the doctor on each medication you are prescribed and to question the pharmacist on its side effects. Your life may very well depend on it!
Margie McIntyre, Dahlonega, Ga.

In August my wife, Wendy, took two prescribed antibiotics for pneumonia. Within two hours she was in the emergency room with her blood pressure dropping. She went into shock and the result was Adult Respiratory Distress Syndrome. She has been paralyzed and on a life-support ventilator to assist her breathing ever since. This has been a nightmare for our family, and it certainly supports Stephen Fried's suggestion that patients need to take a more active part in their own health care.
Ken Jonah, Dublin, Calif.

The lack of outrage about the thousands of prescription-drug deaths each year baffles me. One contaminated batch of the natural amino acid tryptophan finds its way into our country, a few people have bad reactions, there are about 30 deaths and it is banned from the shelves of all health-food stores. But 100,000 to 300,000 die from prescription drugs and only a few people other than Stephen Fried complain!
Gayle Cranford, Hermitage, Pa.

Picks & Pans
I have a quick comment for Steve Dougherty, who wrote the review on Sloan, a Canadian band. Tell me: If being Canadian is a poor choice of birthplace if you are looking toward a career in music, then could you please explain the phenomenal success of artists such as Alanis Morissette, Celine Dion, David Foster, Barenaked Ladies and Joni Mitchell? I don't think it is a poor choice of birthplace, but rather an ignorant writer.
Don Kearney, London, Ont.

Mailbag
This concerns the letter from Carrie Donald, who said that PEOPLE should write about positive issues with teenagers and not focus on the negativity of homosexuality. Some years ago, when my son was about 11, I took him along on a commitment-ceremony rehearsal for two women in my congregation. While gay weddings are not sanctioned by the state of California, I am not compromising my ministerial license by doing commitment ceremonies. At any rate, after we were all done and on our way home, my son asked which of the girls was the bride. I was momentarily stumped, but replied, "I guess they both are. They are marrying each other." He said, "Oh." He was quiet for a few minutes and I asked him what he thought of that. He said, "Well, I guess if you love someone, you should be married to them." Carrie Donald needs to take a lesson from an 11-year-old. I can't think of anything more positive than two people who love each other being together.
Rev. Maureen Hoyt, Grenada Hills, Calif.

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