updated 09/04/2000 AT 01:00 AM EDT
•originally published 09/04/2000 AT 01:00 AM EDT
But they sure can chat. So while oozing around that day, they came up with the idea of taking their long-distance gabfest to the airwaves. Now, four years later, they have succeeded. Satellite Sisters, the Dolans' weekly 60-minute conference call, was launched by Public Radio International last April and has since become one of its top new shows, airing in 19 markets. Blending sisterly substance and silliness, they have tackled such topics as persuading Monica to quit procrastinating and call a roofer; urging Sheila to get a grip on her credit-card spending; and talking Lian—who discovered a lump in her breast—through an on-air self-exam.
Their roles fell into place naturally, explains Lian: "Liz does the serious interviews. Julie is the facilitator. I add the color commentary. Monica is the nurturer. Sheila is the most offbeat." Since the show's debut, they have been deluged with fan mail. Their favorite note came from a Catholic priest in Chicago, who wrote, "I feel like I'm eavesdropping in the ladies' room."
Actually, it's more like the kitchen of the rambling Fairfield, Conn., house where the sisters shared dishwashing duty. No small task: James Dolan, 72, a retired steel service-center owner, and his wife, Edna, 73, a retired nurse, had eight children; the other three are of the male persuasion (James, 47, Richard, 46, and Brendan, 36). With the radio blaring Sly and the Family Stone, the Dolan girls danced, sang and yakked themselves hoarse while scraping, scrubbing and drying. "It was loud," Julie says.
From college on, the sisters went their separate ways. Julie, 45, a former university administrator and the mother of two teenage sons, eventually followed her energy-company executive husband, Trem, to Bangkok. Liz, who is 42, single and living in Portland, Ore., was a vice president of global marketing for Nike until 1997. Sheila, 41, divorced with a teenage daughter, is principal of a Manhattan public elementary school. Monica, 40, is a single nurse, also in Portland. And Lian, 35, is the mother of two boys and lives in Pasadena, Calif., with real estate analyst husband Berick.
Eighteen months after their muddy reunion, at which Liz hatched the Satellite Sisters idea, they persuaded Laura Walker, president of WNYC, a New York City public radio station, to back it. "I thought, 'If we could bottle it,' " says Walker, " 'this is what great radio is all about.' " The banter seems effortless—but there are some rules. "Dialogue, not diatribe," says Liz. "We wanted to be empathetic, but not touchy-feely or New Agey." And, she adds, "we never use the word 'empowerment.' "
Debbie Seaman in New York City