Down to Earth
updated 06/18/2001 AT 01:00 AM EDT
•originally published 06/18/2001 AT 01:00 AM EDT
Not surprisingly, Guffey considered acting more of a hobby than a job. "Other kids went to summer camp," he says. "I made a movie." But at age 12, after eight feature films and two TV miniseries, he moved on to other pursuits: "I had acne and wanted to chase girls," he says with a laugh. Now 29, married and working as a financial adviser at Merrill Lynch in Birmingham, Ala., Guffey has only fond memories of his showbiz stint. "My whole life I've seen the movie," he says. "This will be a part of me forever."
Early on Guffey loved being the center of attention. The middle child of Goodyear executive Larry, 58, and teacher Sue, 58, he asked to go to preschool at age 3. (He has two brothers: Andy, 31, a computer technician; and Thomas, 22, a manager of a fast-food restaurant.) On the first day, his mother recalls, nary a tear was shed. "He walked in and said, 'Hi, I'm Cary Guffey, and I've come to play.' "
Spotted by a casting director the same year, "he was selected from I don't know how many thousands of children," says Vilmos Zsigmond, Close Encounters's director of photography. But when the Guffeys arrived on the Mobile, Ala., set, they found another boy vying for the role. "They were equally good, and I had to make a choice," Spielberg said in a documentary about the film. "I was just drawn to Cary." During the shoot Spielberg—ever the Peter Pan—befriended the toddler. "He rode me around on his motorcycle," says Guffey. "He got down eye-to-eye and talked to me." Guffey, most of whose scenes were done in just one take, "was incredible," says Zsigmond. "He believed that everything he saw was real. He had a wonderful expression because he was wondering about everything."
When the movie hit, little Guffey found himself answering fan mail. "My dad believed that anyone who took the time to write me a letter got a response," says Guffey. While he wrote, his parents fretted. "Anytime he had an offer, we would lie awake all night," says Sue Guffey. "He had fun doing what he did. But we both worried that he would grow up and resent us. What mattered to us was that we do the right thing by him."
They did, Guffey attests. "I had a great life as a child—just enough, never too much, never a pressure thing." So when he decided to quit acting, his parents supported him. After graduating from West Windsor High School in Princeton, N.J., he earned a marketing degree from the University of Florida and an M.B.A. from Alabama's Jacksonville State University. While in college he met fellow student Michelle Quillen at a Gainesville, Fla., dance club. "We wound up dancing all night," says Michelle, 27, a Birmingham News reporter. "The next day I had to break up with my boyfriend." Michelle, who married Guffey in 1997, had never seen Close Encounters until a friend told her about his role.
The second-grade girls' soccer team he coaches doesn't know him as a star either—just as an enthusiastic adult who mock-kowtows to the opposing team's goalie when she blocks a shot. "He's so much fun," says soccer mom Sharon Bestwick, 43. "The girls love Coach Guffey."
Which is a title he much prefers to Former Child Star Guffey. A Tiffany & Co. crystal vase—a wedding gift from Spielberg and his wife, Kate Capshaw—and the size 2-3T top he wore as Barry Guiler are among the few mementos of Close Encounters that he keeps in the suburban Birmingham home he shares with Michelle and their two dogs. "I don't want the greatest thing I do in life to be something I did when I was 4 years old," says Guffey, holding the tiny shirt chest-high. "I am trying to grow and develop all my gifts and talents, not trying to grow into a shirt that is too small for me."
Nancy Wilstach in Birmingham