Hook Ups

State of the Date 2003: A People Poll

UPDATED 02/24/2003 at 01:00 AM EST Originally published 02/24/2003 at 01:00 AM EST

HOME ALONE

51% of women and
54% of men say they are currently not dating anyone.

CURRENT AFFAIRS

When was your last date?

Less than one month ago:
Women: 54%
Men: 65%

One to six months ago:
Women: 26%
Men: 22%

Seven months ago or more:
Women: 19%
Men: 12%

THE MEET MARKET

How tough is it to find a date?

Very/extremely easy:
Women: 30%
Men: 37%

Not easy at all:
Women: 32%
Men: 22%

DINNER AND A MOVIE?

What did you do on your last date?

Went out to eat: 56%
Saw a movie: 36%
Went to a bar or nightclub: 8%
Hung out/talked: 7%
Went to a sporting event or concert: 3%

VINTAGE WHINE?

69% of women over 30 say it's more difficult to date now than when they were younger. 43% of men say it's true for them too.

WORKING WITH THE NET

12% of women say they've used an online dating service (vs. 16% of men).

LOVE? WHATEVER...

What do you have in mind when you go out on a date?

Companionship:
Women: 68%
Men: 59%

A potential spouse:
Women: 14%
Men: 12%

Just something to do:
Women: 16%
Men: 16%

63% of women say they could forgive Joe Millionaire (Evan Marriott, top right) for lying about his wealth

WORKING RELATIONSHIPS

49% have dated a coworker.

WAY TO GO, JOE

Among women who watch Joe Millionaire, 60% think Evan should pick Zora; male fans say if they were Evan, they would choose Sarah over Zora, 65% to 35%.

WISH LIST

What is the trait that is most appealing in a mate?

Sense of humor:

Women: 25%
Men: 11%

Sincerity:
Women: 13%
Men: 14%

Intelligence:
Women: 5%
Men: 8%

Ambition:
Women: 4%
Men: 6%

Good body:
Women: 7%
Men: 9%

Nice butt:
Women: 1%
Men: 5%

Tall:
Women: 4%
Men: 1%

Nice eyes:
Women: 9%
Men: 8%

Nice teeth/smile:
Women: 8%
Men: 4%

MEN: Which Sex and the City character would you most like to date?

31% Carrie (Sarah Jessica Parker)
20% Miranda (Cynthia Nixon)
16% Charlotte (Kristin Davis)
11% Samantha (Kim Cattrall)
23% None/Don't Know

WOMEN: Which Sex and the City character do you most relate to?

34% Carrie (Sarah Jessica Parker)
14% Miranda (Cynthia Nixon)
14% Charlotte (Kristin Davis)
9% Samantha (Kim Cattrall)
29% None/Don't Know

SPLIT DECISIONS

What was the reason for your last breakup:

Cheating:
Women: 30%
Men: 33%

The other person wanted a commitment and I didn't:
Women: 24%
Men: 30%

I wanted a commitment and the other person didn't:
Women: 23%
Men: 22%

Different goals or interests:
Women: 13%
Men: 9%

Friends or family didn't approve:
Women: 18%
Men: 19%

Age difference:
Women: 12%
Men: 13%

Sex:
Women: 10%
Men: 14%

Money:
Women: 9%
Men: 11%

Moved/Too much distance:
Women: 7%
Men: 4%

HE SAID, SHE SAID
77% of women say they are usually the one who ends their relationship; 64% of men say they do.

WHY DIDN'T THEY CALL?
42% of men and women admit that they've dated a person they didn't like.

MIXED DOUBLES?
38% of men and women say they have never dated anyone of a different race; 24% have never dated anyone of a different religion.

ELDER DATESMAN
28% of men say they typically date younger people (vs. 11% of women).

MAY, MEET DECEMBER
53% of women say they typically date older men; 14% of men say they date older women.

STAND-UP TYPES
38% of men and women admit to canceling a date because a better offer suddenly came up.

FIVE-YEAR PLANS
5% of women and 9% of men in their 30s say they will be "ecstatic" if they're still single five years from now; 26% of women and 21% of men say they'll be "miserable."

57% of women say they have asked a guy out

HELLO HÄAGEN-DAZS!
18% of women say they haven't been on a single date in the past year (vs. 11% of men).

WOMEN

Which of the following celebrities would you most like to date?

BEN AFFLECK 29%
GEORGE CLOONEY 23%
DENZEL WASHINGTON 20%
ANTONIO BANDERAS 13%
TOBEY MAGUIRE 7%

RYAN'S CHOICE
Among men who watch The Bachelorette, 54% say Trista (above) should choose Ryan over Charlie; 61% of women say if they were Trista, they'd pick Ryan too.

MULTIPLE CHOICE
18% of men say they have been on 10 or more dates in the past year (vs. 7% of women).

LEARNING TO JUGGLE
25% of men say they are willing to date more than one person at a time (vs. 11% of women).

DOUBLE BEDS
15% of men say they typically have more than one sexual relationship at a time. Among women, only 3% do.

CHECK, MATE
75% of men say they paid on their last date.

TIME FOR AN AUDIT
20% of men say they've lied to a date about how much money they earn.

CHASTE AROUND

How long before sex?

Within five dates:
Women: 22%
Men: 55%

A month or two:
Women: 28%
Men: 20%

Three months or more:
Women: 27%
Men: 8%

Not until married:
Women: 16%
Men: 8%

Depends on the person:
Women: 7%
Men: 9%

STRANGERS IN THE NIGHT

Sex on the first date?
48% of men say yes. Just 24% of women agree.

THE CLINTON LEGACY
35% of men and 28% of women believe that having/giving oral sex is not sex.

SHORT-TERM MEMORIES
55% of men (vs. 39% of women) say they have had sex in the past week.

MEN

Which of the following celebrities would you most like to date?

KATIE COURIC 8%
PAMELA ANDERSON 8%
JENNIFER LOPEZ 16%
HALLE BERRY 27%
JENNIFER ANISTON 30%

NEW YORK, N.Y.
The Remote Lounge

The hot spot features 65 cameras positioned throughout, which patrons control with joysticks. Those who eye someone of interest can simply zoom in, then pick up a special phone to connect. Says Matt Heindl, Remote's manager: "The technology eliminates the awkward walk up to someone and the ultimate walk of shame back when you're rejected."

WASHINGTON, D.C.
Puppy Love

Like so many singles, dark-haired Auggie is looking for love—along with a few biscuits and a nice backyard. The 1-year-old Australian shepherd mix is up for adoption at a weekly event that draws a local singles volunteer group. "You get to spend a Friday evening with gorgeous men, holding puppies, talking to children," says Lyndie Votaw, 47. "Can it get any better than that?"

DALLAS
Height Makes (Mr.) Right

At 6'9", Tony Papa towers over the Dallas singles scene—and that's without his boots. "I've danced with women that are 5'4" and it's not comfortable," says Papa, 39. But when he's out with the Tall Texans of Dallas, a social club open to women who are at least 5'10" and men taller than 6', "I'm around people that can relate to life the way I see it," he says. No step stool required.

[This article contains a table. Please see hardcopy of magazine or PDF.]
[This article contains a table. Please see hardcopy of magazine or PDF.]

Your Reaction

Follow Us

On Newsstands Now

Brad's Devotion: The Inside Story
  • Brad's Devotion: The Inside Story
  • Oklahoma Tornado: Heroic Rescues
  • Michael Douglas on Catherine's Health

Pick up your copy on newsstands

Click here for instant access to the Digital Magazine

Advertisement

From Our Partners

Watch It

Editors' Picks

From Our Partners