Business analysts respectfully disagree. Last year Fortune magazine named Whitman, 47, one of the three most powerful women in business. Since taking the helm in 1998, she has transformed eBay from a dot-com upstart with 30 staffers to a corporate juggernaut boasting 4,500 employees and operating in 27 countries. She has helped create not only the world's most profitable e-commerce site but a pop-cultural phenomenon—a meeting place for glass-eyeball experts and BMW buffs alike. And she has done it all, admirers say, in a way that earns the loyalty of colleagues as well as customers. "Anxiety in the business world runs sky-high," says ABC news anchor Diane Sawyer. "But when Meg walks into a room, tensions seem to vanish."
A lot of people are certainly breathing easier since they started selling on eBay-among them wheelchair—bound Marjorie Smith, 49, who has built an online business selling Beanie Babies and other collectibles from her Port Royal, S.C., home. "eBay is giving us little folks a level playing field with everyone," she says, "from big companies to the guy next door."
eBay's head honcho hardly fits the image of the Silicon Valley visionary. Raised in Cold Spring Harbor, N.Y., the youngest of three children born to financial exec Hendricks and home-maker Margaret, Whitman raced through high school in three years. Her idea of teen rebellion was pursuing her economics degree at Princeton. "Most of my relatives," she explains, "had gone to Harvard." She went there later, though, for her MBA. A competitive swimmer and lacrosse player, "Meg was a dynamo as a child," recalls Margaret, 83. "She has always loved to win." Whitman's gusto still attracts her husband of 23 years, neurosurgeon Griffith Harsh, with whom she shares a big Bay Area house. "In her quiet way, Meg is as driven as anyone I know," says Harsh, 49, who began dating her at Harvard. "Nothing intimidates her."
Not even the task of remaking eBay. After stints at Procter 8c" Gamble, Disney and Hasbro, Whitman already had a stellar CV when eBay founder Pierre Omidyar, then 30, came courting five years ago. At the time, staffers at the San Jose headquarters used card tables for desks. "It was pretty much the kids running the operation," says Adam Cohen, author of The Perfect Store, a book on eBay. "She professionalized the whole company." Yet she kept its egalitarian culture, sitting in a 8 ft. by 8 ft. cubicle like everyone else. "She doesn't act like a CEO," says Jim Griffith, 49, who runs eBay's user-training program. "She's willing to get in the trenches."
'Whitman reads about 150 e-mails a day from eBay users; she often trades on the site herself, recently selling the contents of her Telluride, Colo., vacation condo. But after 60 hours at the office, she tries to keep her weekends work-free, going fly-fishing or to the movies with Harsh and their two sons, ages 15 and 18. It's a tough balance. Whitman once rushed out of a directors' meeting to take a frantic call from her younger boy, then 9, who was traveling alone and stuck in Dallas after missing a flight. Board members waited patiently for an hour while she calmed him down. "You have to give up the notion," she says, "that you're going to be the perfect wife, mother and executive all the time."
With a 2.3 percent share in the company, Whitman is worth as much as $825 million but still buys her clothes at the local department store. That no-nonsense attitude has served her—and eBay shareholders—extraordinarily well. "I've always tried to just put my head down," she says, "and deliver the results."
Ron Arias in San Jose and Steve Helling in Orlando