updated 02/17/1997 AT 01:00 AM EST

originally published 02/17/1997 AT 01:00 AM EST

Though Christopher Reeve and his wife, Dana, are admired for their bravery and optimism in the aftermath of Reeve's crippling accident (PEOPLE, Jan. 27), some correspondents feel that because of his celebrity, Reeve enjoys privileges others in his situation do not.

After reading Christopher Reeve's wife's comment, "We think of Chris's disability as a temporary situation," I had to write. I too suffered a spinal-cord injury. I too had been athletic and active. And I too spent my first year praying for a miracle. But after 11 years, my feeling is that should a cure for paralysis be found, it will most likely help those who are newly injured, those who have limited paralysis and those with unlimited resources. Though I respect Mr. Reeve's desire to raise funds for a cure, perhaps it is time for him to accept the possibility that his condition may not change for the rest of his life. The rest of us have.
LYN M. ROOT, Lawrenceville, Ga.

My heart goes out to Christopher Reeve and his family, and I wish him the best. But I must speak for myself and others with loved ones who have disabilities. How wonderful it must be to get the finest care—wheelchairs, physical therapy, full-time aides, etc. We noncelebrities must fight daily with insurance companies, schools and medical services to get what our family members need. We are the families people do not read about. Unlike celebs, we must do this alone.
LAURIE GLOVER, Garden Grove, Calif.

During Christopher Reeve's recovery, everyone has seemed totally amazed that Dana Morosini has stood by him. What a sad statement on our society that we should find it incredible that someone takes their wedding vows seriously.

As the wife of a career military officer who is proud to be a graduate of the U.S. Coast Guard Academy, I am appalled at The Citadel debacle. How do these cadets sleep at night? If I were a male cadet at The Citadel, I would be deeply ashamed to tell anyone where I went to school. It's time to grow up, boys. It's a real world out there, and women are part of it.

Regardless of anyone's opinion as to whether females should have been admitted to The Citadel, they have been. And once they were, their safety should have been guaranteed. No one should have flammable liquid poured on their clothing and set on fire. Are the boys responsible—I refuse to refer to them as young men—our future military leaders? God help us if they are.
FAY COLLIER, Fairfax Station, Va.

I lament for former cadets Messer and Mentavlos for any mistreatment they perceived, but more so because they gave up. They had no monopoly on the vagaries of the fourth-class system at The Citadel. After all, 77 of 581 freshmen left the corps by December, as is usual. The Citadel's purpose has been to build people of character who won't falter under fire. I was a "damn Yankee" in a bastion of the South, and my roommate was the first black football player at The Citadel. How much fun did we have? I hated The Citadel when I was there but grew to honor its traditions when I saw how it prepared me for the hardships of the real world.
TONY CICORIA, M.D., The Citadel Class of 1974, Oneonta, N.Y.

Once again the media magnify every indiscretion of a sports star as though she is larger than life. Yes, drunken driving is a serious offense, but what Oksana needs is guidance and support, not people in her face, watching her every move, waiting for her to make mistakes. If not for the media, maybe she wouldn't feel all the pressure she's under. Let her be a teenager!

As a victim of a drunk driver, I have zero tolerance for negligent acts such as Oksana Baiul's. Instead of asking for "understanding," she should be asking for a referral to a therapist.
KISA NANTZ, Lake Oswego, Ore.

It seems to me that if 60 percent of American women are size 14 and above, the gorgeous, feminine Emme should be referred to as a "regular" model. All the. ultrathin "regular" models should be referred to as "minus-size," since it is clear that they are the aberration, not the norm.
KRISTEN MCCASLIN, Sunnyvale, Calif.

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