'I Do's' in Iraq
Not for long. Far from toasting the nuptials, Blackwell and Dagen's superior officer blocked them from making any contact with their wives, curtailed their access to e-mail and telephones and launched an investigation that could lead to the pair being court-martialed. "They are not being investigated for marrying Iraqis," says a spokeswoman for the military's Central Command in Baghdad, "but for dereliction of duty and disobeying their commanding officers. They were supposed to be in one place and they were in another."
Even so, their case has highlighted a gray area of military conduct: what to do when Cupid is firing the shots. War brides have always been a part of life in an occupied zone, but with military officials wary about security in Iraq—where more than 100 U.S. soldiers have been killed since President Bush called an end to major combat on May 1—even innocent flirtations have been under tight scrutiny. Yet there is no blanket policy on soldiers dating or marrying Iraqi women—"It's up to each individual commander," says the Centcom spokeswoman—and that has led to confusion in the ranks. "Supposedly there was word that there was no marriage allowed," says Sgt. David McDonald, who heads a security division of 120 based at Baghdad's convention center. "I think one concern is that if someone gets married, it's more responsibility than they should be dealing with. We have to worry about bombs, suicide drivers and bullets. We don't have time for that."
Blackwell, however, made time. He was on guard duty at the Iraqi Ministry of Health when Ehda'a, an English-speaking doctor (for her safety she does not want her last name used), came by to seek work at a Baghdad hospital two weeks after the end of active combat. When she told him she feared she was in danger in the Iraqi city of Kut because of her Western ways, he tried to find her work alongside his battalion surgeon. A few days later he invited her to tour Saddam Hussein's palace with him. "Everything in Sean impressed me," Ehda'a says of Blackwell, 27, a Pensacola, Fla., native who joined the Army at 18 and has two young daughters back home—one from a previous marriage and one from another relationship. "The way he talks, the way he smiles, he captured my heart from the first look."
She introduced a 26-year-old friend, also a physician, to Blackwell's pal Dagen, 37—who worked as a mechanic before he was called up to go to Iraq in February. "At first they were just friends," Dagen's aunt Rita Bolton, of Addison, Texas, says. "But then it blossomed into romance." Blackwell's affair also became serious; Ehda'a visited several times a week. "Six hours would pass as six minutes," she says. "We talked about our different cultures and religion. He did not try for physical, but emotional, love."
In a letter to PEOPLE, Blackwell says that when the couple began discussing marriage, his battalion commander objected and threatened to have him reassigned to Kuwait. Determined, Blackwell converted to Islam (required by Iraqi law for those marrying Muslims). But the commander, Lt. Col. Thad Hill, sent an order forbidding the union, according to Blackwell, who says that a sergeant major told him, "Muslims and Christians just don't jive together." (The military would not comment on the case, and Hill could not be reached.)
Back home the men's relatives were taken aback but supportive. "It took me a while to get over the idea that he would be marrying the enemy," says Blackwell's mother, Vickie McKee, 46, who exchanges regular e-mails with Ehda'a. "But she will fit in with the family, no problem." Says Dagen's cousin Gwen Tutton: "It breaks my heart that he would be in trouble for following his heart." Now working as a translator for Dyncorp, a contractor assisting in rebuilding Iraq, Ehda'a says she has received death threats from fellow Iraqis. She hopes to move to the U.S. as soon as possible; Blackwell's tour won't end before February. For now, she would simply like to see him. "I cry every day because I am not with my husband," she says. "I will never be happy until we are together."
Zelie Pollon in Baghdad, Steve Helling in Orlando, Anne Lang in Austin and Courtney Rubin in London