Cathi Hanauer edited The Bitch in the House, a tart 2003 bestseller that featured women's essays on subjects including marriage. Now, in The Bastard on the Couch, edited by her husband, Daniel Jones, men speak up.
WHY A REBUTTAL? Jones: Some of the writers in Bitchwere married to men I knew. I felt the same way I did for them as I did for myself—a little sorry for their inability to speak for themselves.
SO WHAT'S BUGGING GUYS? Jones: A lot of them are struggling with what it is to be a man. They're in a relatively weaker position compared to previous generations. And husbands are on the defensive; women are going out and grabbing what they want very aggressively, and a lot of men are caught off guard in their marriages.
HOW DO MEN AND WOMEN REACT DIFFERENT TO FRUSTRATION? Hanauer: Women are more likely to keep plowing through it and get angrier and angrier. Men are more likely to sit back and say, "This is what it is; I can't do any more."
DID BASTARD OPEN YOUR EYES? Jones: It made me see that I'm not the only one standing at the sink at 11:30 at night doing the dishes, wanting to go to bed and knowing I'll be scorned if I don't finish.
WHAT'S CHANGED IN YUOR LIVES? Hanauer: Editing these books was like two years of marital therapy for free. And don't have to be angry all the time. I'm not a raging bitch.