Marc Anthony in Charge
updated 10/29/2007 AT 01:00 AM EDT
•originally published 10/29/2007 AT 01:00 AM EDT
That life together—spent mostly at their Long Island home—is a far cry from her paparazzi-chased days with ex-boyfriend Sean "Diddy" Combs and former fiancé Ben Affleck. And it's largely due to Anthony's influence. One of the biggest salsa stars in the world, the two-time Grammy and two-time Latin Grammy winner has sold 7 million CDs in the U.S. and regularly fills arenas. But he's fiercely protective of his private life. If he and Lopez are expecting, their tight-lipped stance is nothing new: After they wed in June 2004, they didn't publicly acknowledge their marriage for another eight months. Anthony also won't hesitate to walk out of an interview if he finds a question intrusive. That old-school machismo brings Lopez "peace," says David Naranjo, a Miami-based media executive who has known both singers for years. "When she walks into a room, she can be the wife of Marc Anthony."
And when they add to their family, Anthony is ready to play Daddy. "Changing diapers, you really feel you're accomplishing something," the father of three told PEOPLE in '99. His wife would agree. "Career is very important for Jennifer," says Naranjo, "but family is more important. She and Marc are soulmates. They each finally found the right one."