"I'm the most ill-prepared parent on the planet," the Tony-winning Hairspray star told PEOPLE at her baby shower Monday at Manhattan's Hudson Hotel. "We were doing construction at our house and I went off and did Dancing with the Stars. Four months later, nothing's gotten done and I'm totally in a panic."
Winokur, a survivor of cervical cancer, is using a surrogate for the delivery. (Because Winokur's treatment included a radical hysterectomy, she is not able to become pregnant or carry a baby.)
The impending arrival, a little boy, will be named Zev. "It means wolf in Hebrew," says Winokur. "My husband wanted it to be Wolfie, and I just thought that's such a hard name for a little, little boy."
As for preparing to be a mom, "I honestly didn't think I was going to be on Dancing with the Stars as long as I was," she says. "I figured I'd get voted off the second week and then I'd get ready for the baby. I literally stopped working two weeks ago and now I've only got six weeks. It will fly by."
Dad Does It His Own WayIn the meantime, Winokur's been relying on her husband, TV writer Judah Miller, to pick up the slack – with some unexpected results.
"I sent him to Home Depot to get a carpet to put in the baby's room, and he tells me, 'I bought nine tiki torches for the pool.' And I said, 'Oh good so we can have a barbecue. What did you get for the baby?' "
As for indoors, "I told my husband I wanted shabby-chic furniture for the nursery. He told me he found this really great furniture while I was dancing, so he got to buy everything. He bought this gorgeous, but mid-century modern furniture from a company called Netto. It's minimalistic and as un-shabby-chic as possible."
She added, "My husband's a purist when it comes to our house, so he’s in a lot of trouble."