07/09/2008 at 10:00 AM EDT
At 4, Gwyneth Paltrow
's daughter Apple loves to play dress-up – and she isn't shy about getting her 2-year-old brother Moses in on the act.
"She makes [Moses] cross-dress," Paltrow, 35, told PEOPLE at Wednesday's launch of Estée Lauder's new perfume, Sensuous, in New York City. "But she doesn't put makeup on him!"
Maybe because she's keeping it for herself: "My daughter plays with anything that's girly. ... She loves makeup," said the actress, who is married to Coldplay frontman Chris Martin. "She puts on the eye shadow and my high heels. ... She likes to take my tank tops and make them a dress. And then she asks me to tie a rubber band on the back so they stay up."
The budding fashionista is also a fan of Mom's fragrance. "I don't like her to spray perfume on herself because she's so little," says Paltrow, "but she likes to spray it on me."
But it's not all maternal duty for the star. After a day of dress-up (and the inevitable cleanup), Paltrow makes sure to decompress.
"Oftentimes when I put my kids to bed I’ll take a bubble bath and have a glass of wine," she said, adding that she also likes to play chef.
"I don't make complicated Japanese food or anything like that," said the star, who recently admitted to having lots of lovely vices
. "But I cook all the time, so I’m always trying new stuff."