Dr. Phil & Wife Robin the Truth About Our Marriage
updated 09/01/2008 AT 01:00 AM EDT
•originally published 09/01/2008 AT 01:00 AM EDT
Is any part of the rumors about your marriage being on the rocks true?
PHIL: These rumors are absolutely, unequivocally, blatantly false.
Why respond? You never have before.
PHIL: It got to the point that someone went up to my 83-year-old mother at church and said, "Oh, Mrs. McGraw, I'm so sorry to hear about Dr. Phil and Robin." People are asking our friends.
ROBIN: Strangers are coming to the house with cameras and asking questions of the workmen.
Some of the trouble started with pictures of a moving truck outside your home.
ROBIN: That's right. One of my passions in life is to redecorate. We never leave our home. It's our safe haven ...
PHIL: ... She remodels this house so much sometimes I think I must have gone in the neighbors' door, because it didn't look like this when I left this morning! I'm proud of what she's done, but I don't like living in a construction zone.
ROBIN: Our compromise is that I have work done on the house while we're out of town. That's when the tabloids got the picture of the moving truck. While we were in Europe I had things put in storage while the house was repainted.
PHIL: So they get from that picture that we're splitting. Then they took a picture of me carrying my tennis bag—something I carry every day—and said I'm packed up and leaving.
ROBIN: They ran a picture of me at American Idol and said that I'm "starting my own life."
PHIL: It's the same story. They just rotate the reason.
So how do you cope?
ROBIN: You just have to remember that at the end of the night, the truth is that you're cuddled up together, no matter what they print.
Don't you ever fight?
PHIL: We never yell, if that's what you mean. I grew up around a lot of discord, lots of fussing and fighting and yelling and screaming. My father was a terrible alcoholic. I don't want any part of it.
ROBIN: My parents didn't raise their voices, so neither of us are yellers.
PHIL: I think the real reason [we don't fight] is that we're both assertive. We're not Stepford husband and wife. We have different views on lots of things. When the boys were growing up she thought I was too hard on them. And I thought she coddled them and let them get away with everything. But we worked it out.
ROBIN: I do say "Listen, buddy" a lot.
PHIL: I can tell how I'm doing at home by the number of sentences that start "Listen." I know I'm doing something wrong when I hear that and get that finger pointed at me.
ROBIN: It's usually a man thing when he gets that reaction. Like tracking in mud.
Aren't you missing out on one of the great joys of married life—makeup sex?
ROBIN: Well, there's happy sex too.
PHIL: No problem with that.
ROBIN: That's a myth about makeup sex, I think. I don't think it's as good as happy sex.
You have said that you will never divorce. How can you be sure of that?
PHIL: The day Robin buried her mother she said, "I'm an orphan. I've got no people." I said, "That's not true because I will never leave you."
ROBIN: And I never doubted him for a moment.