Chatting with ... Ellen & Portia

updated 09/01/2008 AT 01:00 AM EDT

originally published 09/01/2008 AT 01:00 AM EDT

Two days before the wedding, DeGeneres and de Rossi took a break from all the last-minute planning to speak with PEOPLE's Julie Jordan.

When did you first know you wanted to spend the rest of your lives together?

P: Instantly.

E: Um, the first time I ever saw her. We both knew when we met each other. We knew each other for three years before we actually got together. The timing wasn't right.

P: When I met her, I just was so attracted to her and just wanted to be around her, but I was in a different stage. The scared stage. I was on Ally McBeal, and I couldn't imagine living as an openly gay woman. And to be with Ellen meant that I would have to overcome a lot of my fears. So a few years passed, and I wasn't going to let that opportunity pass me by again. She's everything to me.

Are either of you going to change your name?

P: I may do it in the future, but I don't think I'm going to do it right now.

E: And if I changed my name to hers, then Telepicture [Productions] would have to change a lot of signs.

You know the inevitable question now is, Will you start a family?

E: Um, not right now. Do we see that?

P: We go back and forth; I don't know if it's in our immediate future. It's something we talk about every few months. We'll know when the time is right if we're going to do it.

E: It'll be pretty obvious to both of us. It's something we would never take lightly and just say, "That would be fun." It's a lot of work and we recognize that. In a way, we want to be selfish because we love our life, but we know how much that adds to it. And to be able to see life brand-new through those eyes, I can see the beauty in that. If they would be as pretty as Brad and Angelina's kids, we might.

P: [laughs] Never say never to anything.

So what's the best advice you've been given?

P: Probably from Wayne Dyer. I just did a little movie with him, so I spent some time with him. Just be kind to each other and be very respectful and considerate.

E: Which is what we do anyway.

How do you see yourselves on your 25th anniversary?

P: On a farm ...

E: Yeah, we want a big farm and to just take care of every kind of animal that needs taking care of.

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