11/20/2008 AT 05:00 PM EST
, still recovering from her split
from Ryan Phillippe
, says it's too soon to think about remarrying.
"There are things in my life that are hard to reconcile, like divorce," the mother-of-two tells Parade
magazine. "Sometimes it is very difficult to make sense of how it could possibly happen. Laying blame is so easy."
Yet the 32-year-old actress says instead of finding fault, she focuses on moving forward.
"When you make wrong choices, you have to take responsibility for them: 'What part of this do I own?'" she says. "I struggle to figure out what made me make those choices. All I can hope for is that I've learned something from it and won't make the same choices again."
One choice she doesn't know if she'll repeat: Tying the knot.
"Family is all we have in life, but I don't know how I feel about marriage," says the Four Christmases
star, who has been dating Jake Gyllenhaal
off-and-on since last year. "Obviously, I'm not far enough out of being married to think about doing it again. You sort of reconstitute your family. You find a family with people who come into your life for a reason."
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