Mom's Online Plea to Tori Spelling: Talk to Me!
04/13/2009 AT 09:40 PM EDT
"You haven't responded to my emails, phone calls and text messages," Candy, 63, says Monday on CandySpelling.com. "You say you look at my website, so I'm trying to reach you that way. I want to see you and your family – in private, like the 'normal family' you say always wanted."
Candy says she's been cut off from Tori, 35, and her two children with husband Dean McDermott, Liam, 2, and Stella, 10 months. Tori has responded that her mother can contact her, telling PEOPLE, "She knows how to reach me, she knows where we live."
The spat comes as both have authored new books – Candy's released last month, Tori's reaching stores Tuesday.
"With your book coming out [Tuesday], the war of words will escalate," writes Candy on her Web site. "That's not what I want. I want us to be a family."
Responding to Tori's claim that her mother hasn't "stepped up" to have a relationship, Candy writes, "Well, I'm stepping up. Call me, write me, text me."
"I'm a mother who, like every mother, wants communication and a great relationship with you, my daughter, and your family," writes Candy. "I'd love to work it out the way all families try to resolve issues. In private. But, as I wrote in my book, I was a celebrity by marriage" – her husband is the late TV producer Aaron Spelling – "then a celebrity by motherhood. That means that my life is public. I'm used to it. It comes with the territory.
"What makes it so difficult is to hear you say things like: I'd like to call my mother, or I love my mother but don't speak to her, or I think she has my nanny's phone number," continues Candy. "I don't want a reunion via talk show or to speak through the press. I want a relationship with you and my grandchildren."
It is signed, "I am hopeful. Love, Mom."