06/17/2009 at 11:00 AM EDT
and Jada Pinkett Smith have been married for more than 11 years – a lifetime by Hollywood standards.
So what's the secret to their long-lasting romance? "Nice outfits and high heels!" Jada, 37, tells the new issue of Redbook
But that's just part of it. Jada who stars in the new TNT series HawthoRNe
, also lists "talking" and "making time" as important elements of a relationship.
As for what to do during that time alone, the actress offers some racy advice. "[Go for] a drive – and then pull over on the side of the road! Think of places outside that are comfortable to have sex. Does he have access to his office? Have a fantasy date. Be his secretary!"
After reading the interview, friends of the Smiths may think twice before inviting the couple over. "Be sneaky," she adds, before listing more places for quickies. "Your girlfriend's house at a party. The bathroom! A guest bedroom! Just switch it up. Anything like that can keep it going. Anything it takes to keep the flame alive."
As for G-rated activities, she'll plan anything from a day hike to an evening stroll to ensure she and Will, 40, stay connected.
"It can be hard because we get caught in the grind of life," says the mother of three (Willow, 8, Jaden, 10, and Trey, 16, Will's son from a previous relationship). "Establish relationships with family members or friends and take turns with each other's kids so you can make that time for yourselves."