Tori and Candy Spelling
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07/27/2009 AT 08:30 AM EDT
Blood isn't only thicker than water, it's harder to clean up. Witness the latest round of fire between long-feuding
mother Candy Spelling and daughter Tori Spelling
, in which the matriarch unleashes a verbal attack on her offspring, expressing the fact she has no intention of becoming a bit player on the younger Spelling's Tori & Dean: Home Sweet Hollywood Oxygen reality series
In an open letter from Candy, 63, to Tori, 36, published Sunday by TMZ.com
, the elder Spelling reacts to the two-part season finale in which Tori makes the "agonizing decision" (Candy's words) to invite her mother to Tori and Dean's daughter Stella's first birthday party
– a gathering that Candy did not attend
Addressed to "MIDDLE-AGED REALITY SHOW STARS (LIKE MY DAUGHTER)," the memo segues from (spelling and punctuation Candy's), "I Know many middle-aged people have issues about their parents and their upbringing. I did," to "A big party wasn't how I envisioned meeting my granddaughter for the first time; but, hey, this is Hollywood, and my grandchildren have become reality show props, too."
For her part, Candy Spelling – the widow of legendary Dynasty, Charlie's Angels
and The Love Boat
TV producer Aaron Spelling – doesn't just advise her daughter but, seemingly, all those who wade in the waters of non-fiction TV.
Her message concludes with, "For all the reality show personalities, please remember that real life doesn't get edited to make things better or worse or get better ratings. You're responsible for what you do. Life isn't just a show. And your families can't just be props. Make your own season finale without creating conflicts you will regret later."