09/14/2009 at 01:00 AM EDT
>• Real Housewives of Atlanta drama queen Nene Leakes shares wisdom from her memoir, Never Make the Same Mistake Twice.
SO YOU NEVER MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE TWICE? "I still do. I kick myself for repeating them! I've tried to be [costar] Kim's friend over and over. I've bought the same Range Rover twice and it gives me the same problems."
WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNED? "I won't ever be in another abusive relationship again. I'm vigilant about it. I would never be a stripper again or pose for Playboy. Even if Hugh Hefner was calling. It would be tempting, but I wouldn't do it."
IS A NEW NENE EMERGING? "I've always been true to myself. But I've learned to try to hold my tongue a little bit more. You see several different sides of me in season 2, but always the same fabulous Nene."