Mary J. Blige Won't Adopt
09/24/2009 AT 09:30 AM EDT
"I don't think I'll do foster care or adopt, to be quite honest," the singer, 38, said at the Cipriani 42nd Street for New Yorkers for Children event where she was honored. "I barely have time for my own children. To adopt more children and not have time for them, that [would be] poor parenting on my [part]."
Blige is stepmother to two children, Jordan, 11, and Nas, 10, with husband Kendu Isaacs, who also has a grown daughter, Brianna, 23.
"I wouldn't adopt, but what I will do is give my time and go and try to be there for people," she said.
As for her own brood, she caught PEOPLE up on their goals: "One [Jordan] is a film director already – she's working on it. That's her goal. And the other [Nas] is a philosopher, a public speaker. He speaks very well already."
Ask model Selita Ebanks, 26, about foster care, and she'll tell you it's something she'll definitely consider once she settles down. After all, she herself was placed in foster care, starting at age 5.
"It was only for two years, and I jumped from family to family. It's very scary," she told PEOPLE. "It's challenging to find an identity as a young person if you don't have the sustenance of love, because you're being shipped around."