Adam Duritz and Emmy Rossum
Emmy Rossum "really can't say" whether Adam Duritz is officially her boyfriend, but she will happily dish on why women love him.
"I get why chicks dig him," Rossum tells PEOPLE at the grand launch of the W Hotel in Washington, D.C. "He's extremely kind, incredibly intelligent, thoughtful, creative and respectful."
Rossum, 23, who filed for divorce
from her husband last month, has been seen
recently on multiple dates with Duritz, 45, who has previously dated Jennifer Aniston
and Courteney Cox Arquette
"I don't discuss my love life because it's always misinterpreted or put under the microscope," she says. "It's especially annoying when you're dating someone else who's well-known, which is why I normally would never go out with a famous guy."
Has the actress, who just attended the American Ballet Theater Fall gala in New York with Duritz, broken her own rule?
"Let's put it this way," she says. "I'd be flattered if someone hit on me tonight, but I really can't say if I'm available or not."
After partying in Washington, Rossum will head to the Hamptons International Film Festival to promote Dare
, a independent movie she describes as "an edgy art house film exploring the sexuality, awkwardness and loneliness of teenagers – because life really is
awkward and funny, isn't it?"
"I used to be an artsy, quiet, kind of chubby kid – which no one believes," she says, "but now I'm really comfortable with my body and my sexuality. I can be naked with the lights on."