10/12/2009 at 02:40 PM EDT
Attorneys for Jon and Kate Gosselin
will meet Tuesday with a court-appointed arbitrator to hammer out the economic issues in their contentious divorce.
Kate, who is seeking child and spousal support
, has accused
Jon of taking $230,000 from the family account. Jon denies the withdrawals were inappropriate and wants Kate to account for more than $100,000 she withdrew.
"There are two sides to every story," Jon's attorney Mark Heller tells PEOPLE in a statement.
If the reality TV pair with eight kids resolves the financial dispute privately, they could avoid a hearing before a Montgomery County, Pennsylvania, judge. Kate's attorney, Mark Momjian, had requested the emergency hearing, seeking to force Jon to return the money.
The arbitration comes as heated relations between the Gosselins seem to have cooled slightly
. Jon spent a quiet weekend at their Wernersville, Penn, home, carving pumpkins with the kids and hanging with his pal, Michael Lohan, father of Lindsay Lohan
"We rode four-wheelers, we had lunch, I rode his motorcycle," Lohan tells PEOPLE. "I now see how close the children are to him. They are the most adorable kids and so friendly. Regardless of their situation, Jon and Kate raised eight wonderful children and they deserve a lot of credit."
Additional reporting by DIANE HERBST