04/13/2010 at 12:00 AM EDT
, 47, a consultant living in Los Angeles, and her Salt Lake City-based teammate, Brandy Snow
, a 40-year-old actress, were the second team to have their run ended by the dreaded U-Turn
on this season of The Amazing Race
. The former girlfriends spoke with PEOPLE about being labeled “mean lesbians,” how they really feel about Caite Upton
and how the competition cost them their relationship. --Carrie BellYou said on the show that “dumb did us in.” Did anything else was contribute to your elimination other than the U-Turn? Brandy:
The U-Turn was the end of us. We were totally blindsided and did not consider ourselves the biggest threat.
It was funny and surprising to see how big of a threat the cops thought we were.
It was a very physically competitive race and we did the best we could in every situation. We brought our best game. I don’t have regrets about how we played it and I don’t have any about how we treated any of the other teams. We were very focused on our performance and not on the other racers. Caite had particularly nasty things to say about you in her explanation for why they u-turned you.
Brandy: We weren’t mean. There are way more clips of her hating on us. To be labeled mean for an off-handed comment while Jordan
is on national television doing a spot-on and hysterical imitation of her seems like a gross double-standard. We were vilified for a comment that was not meant in any way to be a judgment call.
If the meanness was so constant, why didn’t they air any of it? I made a joke on day one about her racing in her sash and tiara. I thought it was funny then and I still think it’s funny.
When we were around them, I felt we were nothing but respectful and kind.
Your reaction and exit speeches were memorable to say the least.Brandy:
I was nervous for last night because I knew I had reacted poorly. When I’m attacked and sabotaged, I go to the fight instinct. The gloves came off. Perhaps the name-calling and impersonations were not the best sportsmanship, but as tired as we were and as emotionally invested as we were in the competition and to have it all taken away, I reacted honestly in the moment.
Are you able to forgive and forget?Carol:
Well, me being a mean lesbian and all, they don’t want to run into me in a dark alley.
It‘s been an emotional roller coaster watching it and being labeled. This is my national coming out party. My friends and family knew I’d been in same-sex relationships, but in general didn’t know. I partially did it because we were only the second lesbian couple on the race. I wanted to raise awareness and be positive.
I’m very hesitant to say Caite is homophobic because that’s a very harsh statement. But, man, to watch her saying the “mean lesbians this and that” in that derisive tone week after week, it’s hard not to let your mind go there.
Your exit means yet another season without an all-female team in the finale.Carol:
We won’t see an all-female team win as long as we have to race in men’s boots ... When the guys have to start running in high heels, it‘ll be a fair fight. You had been dating less than a year when you started. How’d that affect your relationship?Carol:
Getting ready for the race hijacked the honeymoon part of our relationship ... Our relationship was more disposable because of its newness. I cannot recommend this for new couples.
It took a toll. We’re living in different cities and focusing on being friends right now.
Did you take away any good memories?Brandy:
I liked Malaysia the most because we worked together best on that leg and we did all the tasks. I loved the culture and the it was beautiful and our cab driver rocked.
Even though I stepped in llama s--- and got kicked by a cow, South America far exceeded my expectations. Those volcanoes were stunning.