Real Housewives: Teresa’s Take on Forgiving Friends

Real Housewives: Teresa’s Take on Forgiving Friends
Teresa Giudice; Giovanni Rufino/Bravo; Ali Paige Goldstein/Bravo

04/09/2010 AT 12:00 AM EDT

Teresa Giudice knows how to keep it classy -- just don't tell her to pay attention, puh-lease. The Real Housewives of New Jersey star is flipping the tables on the ladies of The Real Housewives of New York by sounding off on season 3 of their show. In this post, Teresa shares her thoughts on when it's appropriate (and when it's not) to bury the hatchet with a feuding friend:

This was definitely the best episode of this season of The Real Housewives of New York City so far!

So much drama! I was totally sucked into it and couldn't believe the show was over so quick! I can't wait for next week (although, spoiler alert, I think Bethenny is pregnant).

It started with our mom-to-be walking across the Brooklyn Bridge with Ramona, who went on the attack right away. Ramona called Bethenny a "press monger" and said that she was "self-serving" and that she had no friends and would probably mess up her relationship with Jason. Wow. I'll give her points for in-your-face honesty, but that was pretty brutal. I will say, though, that with your close friends, you can tell it like it is, apologize if you cross the line -- like Ramona did -- and then you're fine. Even though Bethenny was crying, by the end of the walk, they had made up and moved on. I thought that was the best example of a true friendship I've seen all season.

I don't care who you are, where you live, if you're on TV or not, you're gonna get into disagreements with your friends and family. To pretend like you never argue with anyone is so fake. The show is real. People fight. But usually, especially if you're good friends with a long history, you make up.

Which brings us back (again, again, again!) to Jill and Bethenny. For the love of all that is holy, the two of them need to get over it already! I cannot believe we have watched this simmer for six weeks. I cannot believe they still hate each other so badly (their blog comments about each other on are not very nice).

At this point, they have both done so many bad things to each other, there's no point in keeping score. Jill doesn't need note cards. Bethenny doesn't need to bring up past pain. They just need to kiss and make-up. That's what real friends do.

We're not talking about two who never got along at all -- like some of my New Jersey costars. Believe me, I totally get when you have had enough of someone and nothing is going to fix things between you. There are some you don't have anything in common with, that live a completely different lifestyle than you (that are prostitution whores, for example), that you just aren't going to be friends with. Period.

But that is not the case with Jill and Bethenny. They were best friends for years. They truly loved each other. If I got into a fight with Dina Manzo, for example, I wouldn't hold a grudge for a year. We might be mad, but we love each other. We'd get over it. We'd move on. She's been my friend for 15 years. You don't just throw that in the garbage over a misunderstanding or insult or whatever. And our friends, like Ramona and Alex were trying to do for Jill and Bethenny, would work to get us to make up.

I'm not sure why LuAnn is so interested in keeping Jill and Bethenny apart. Maybe she's trying to protect Jill from the "toxicity" she thinks Bethenny brings, but from where I'm sitting, the anxiety of their fighting is poisoning Jill much worse than if they just made up. --Teresa Giudice

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Tell us: Should Bethenny and Jill be friends? Why won't Jill try and work things out with Bethenny? Did Ramona do the right thing by bringing Bethenny over when Jill was there? And what do you think of LuAnn?Teresa Giudice; Giovanni Rufino/Bravo; Ali Paige Goldstein/Bravo

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