Portia de Rossi Is Glad She’s Not an Idol Judge
03/15/2010 AT 12:00 AM EDT
It wasn't a love for butchered cover songs that led Ellen DeGeneres to the American Idol judges' panel -- it was the result of a simple marital directive.
"I was like, 'Honey, that's it. Go get another job,'" Ellen's wife Portia de Rossi tells PEOPLE with a laugh. "I'm that demanding."
Maybe it wasn't that simple, but de Rossi, who was being honored with the Visibility Award at Saturday night's Human Rights Campaign Gala in Los Angeles, points out that Idol has quickly gone from guilty pleasure to a family affair. "I'm a part of American Idol now," she says with a sigh. "I'm actually going to every taping of Idol because it's really fun to be there and it's fun to support her. I'm just glad that I'm not a judge."
The star of ABC's Better Off Ted sees the toll that Ellen's new job takes when a contestant goes for a note that they should have passed on, or when the irascible Cowell starts to clean his claws. "It's hard, especially when the contestants don't do that well," de Rossi says, "because I know that she will be struggling to think of something positive to say to them."
The problem, according to de Rossi, is that as much as Ellen may have coveted the role, her personality is diametrically opposed to the job. "She doesn't judge ," the actress says. "She's a very positive person. She doesn't like to criticize, so it's kind of a difficult role for her to play. She wants to give them good advice, but she also doesn't want to be negative."
Still, DeGeneres, who is juggling her daytime talk show with the grueling Idol schedule, is happy with her new gig. "She's doing two things that she absolutely loves to do," the actress says with a smile. "She's very busy but she's very happy being busy. She's loving it, and I think she's doing amazing."
So, as Ellen strives to play the ballast to Cowell's bombast, does de Rossi want to step into Ellen's shoes and be an Idol judge? "No," the actress says. "If I was up there, looking into the eyes of those young kids, I would probably be a pushover. I would be like a water-downed version of Paula Abdul. All I would be doing is applauding and telling them that they were magnificent all of the time." --Reagan Alexander