"We're so happy," the actress, who wed Bratcher on Oct. 10, tells PEOPLE. "My mama told me never to meet a man at a bar – so I did!"
The actress and the Dell computer data consultant, who had dated for two years before they tied the knot, met at a wine bar in Nashville and bonded over a love of author Gabriel Garcia Marquez. They became engaged last New Year's Eve.
The couple's wedding reflected their down-to-earth style: Bratcher, 39, and von Oy, 33, said "I do" in her hometown of Newtown, Conn., in the garden outside a bed and breakfast owned by a former teacher of the bride's. The couple's dog, Bruiser, served as ring bearer. ("He laid down for the entire ceremony!" marvels von Oy, who carried flowers from Just for You Floral Design Studio in Middlefield, Conn., down the aisle).
After the ceremony – during which 83 guests, including actors Kal Penn and Dule Hill, snacked on truffle popcorn – friends and family danced the night away to songs they were asked to request beforehand.
"There were only five people sitting at any given time," said von Oy. "I was wearing these purple lace-up boots under my dress, so, yeah, good stuff!"
The couple's first dance was to Train's "Marry Me," but they also shared a special second trip around the dance floor as the deejay played a song that von Oy wrote for her new husband.
"He looked at me and his eyes welled up," says von Oy.
The wedding was full of similar personal touches: a clothesline held photos of the newlyweds with each guest, and the cake – a peanut butter and chocolate confection – was prepared by Bratcher's chef sister. The couple were toasted with glasses of Malibu Rocky Oaks wine.
Von Oy says it "truly was" the best day of her life. "We knew it would be a wonderful day," she says. "But it was a blast – more fun than we ever expected!"