From left: Kendra Wilkinson, Louis van Amstel and Carrie Ann Inaba
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04/14/2011 at 11:10 AM EDT
Elegance is in the eyes of the beholder according to Kendra Wilkinson
, not in the eyes of Carrie Ann Inaba.
"We have our own definition," Wilkinson told reporters following the Dancing with the Stars
elimination on Tuesday, after Inaba said she seemed to be "afraid of elegance" during her performance the night before
. "Elegance is what [my husband] Hank [Baskett] sees, not what Carrie Ann sees. That's what I care about."
The reality star admits that right after Inaba's comment, she felt "like giving up."
"Another woman telling me about elegance eats away at my ego," she said. "I'm a huge Carrie Ann fan, and she's [usually] so sweet, but that one comment – I felt belittled at that moment and embarrassed."
Wilkinson makes it clear that she does take her time on the show seriously, but not too
"This is great, and a time of my life I will look back on, but it's not my life," she said. "My life is my family memories. We just bought a new home. That right there means the world to me."
"Why am I listening to people that I don't care about?" Wilkinson continued. "I'm out here to have a good time – to be Kendra and dance and shake my butt – not to be a professional dancer."