05/16/2011 at 05:00 PM EDT
has had her share of high-profile romances, and judging by some of her song lyrics
, not all of them ended well.
But when asked about having been attracted to a bad boy or two, the singer and actress – who has been linked to Jake Gyllenhaal
, John Mayer
and Taylor Lautner
– defends her choices, saying in the June issue of InStyle
, "Well, they start out nice!"
The experience of having past relationships end hasn't soured Swift, 21, on the idea of love and romance. In fact, she says she's open to a relationship as long as it feels right.
"There are no rules when it comes to love," says the Grammy winner. "I just try to let love surprise me because you never know who you're going to fall in love with. You never know who's going to come into your life – and for me, when I picture the person I want to end up with, I don't think about what their career is, or what they look like. I picture the feeling I get when I'm with them."
And whether or not she has disappointments on the romance front, she says that she'll always write in her own ending – in song.
"I'm really a daydreamer and a hopeful person," she says. "When it comes to 'happily ever after,' I always have a tendency to write a happy ending to my songs. That's probably wishful thinking on my part."
For more on Swift, pick up
InStyle, on newsstands Friday