06/14/2011 at 03:25 PM EDT
If Tori Spelling
hit the sack feeling anything less than content Monday night, it probably had more to do with everyday issues than her minor car accident
"Is it ok to go to bed angry?" the mom-of-two – Liam, 4, and Stella, 3 – Tweeted
Tuesday, including a link to her blog ediTORIal
"All right, we've all heard the old saying 'never go to bed angry,' " Spelling, 38, writes one day after crashing into a wall at her kids' school while being followed by paparazzi. (Spelling and her children were not injured.) "But is it really possible to abide by that old adage when you're underslept [sic], overstressed and fed up with your partner's bad habits?"
With no specific mention of her husband
Dean McDermott – or what exactly those "bad habits" entail – Spelling, who's expecting her third child
, outlined a step-by-step guide to taking the high road.
The game plan: listen, communicate, apologize, think happy thoughts and say "I love you."
"One more thing! None of the above applies to abusive relationships," she writes. "No matter how you choose to navigate the sea of love, learning to distinguish between mistakes you can live with (or at least work with) and behavior patterns that are actually harmful to you is key."