Michelle Money and Graham Bunn
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10/11/2011 at 11:00 AM EDT
On last season's Bachelor Pad
, Michelle Money and Graham Bunn looked like they were headed for coupledom
. But now, the 2,000 miles between them is preventing their relationship from blossoming.
"I adore him and if we lived in the same city we'd be inseparable," Money, 30, told PEOPLE. The single mother lives in Salt Like City while Bunn, 32, lives in New York City.
"We need to be smart about it. I can't move my 6-year-old out to New York. It's not what I have envisioned for her at this point. And he can't move to Utah, so we're being realistic."
Of course, that's not what either of them want.
"My heart hurts," she said while celebrating her birthday at Las Vegas's Gallery Nightclub. "I want to be close to Graham but I can't."
And because of that, Money is on the market – sort of.
"Graham and I are not exclusive, but there is no one else I'd want to date," she said. "But we?re at this place where we're not putting pressure on each other to make [the relationship] more than it realistically is."